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Secret convo pt2
Relationship Stress / by SaltedCaramel123
Last post
 August 23rd
...See more So this is what's happening after seeing a label secret convo in messanger. Truth is we kept fighting over it because he thinks i dont see or acknowledge his efforts. At some point he told me that can my overthinking be fought by remembering his effort and reasons why he wouldnt do it? Even before he keeps telling me i was the one he like and introduced me to everyone and its been a long time that he didnt get into relationship because he doesnt fall to anyone easily. So why would he make a secret convo with someone just to destroy what he was trying to build with me and he said he doesnt know what kind of reassurance i need because he already exhausted all the ideas he can think of. Introducing me to everyone in his life and his family. Updating me wherever he go. Still no matter how many he proof he shows to me he said i still keep finding faults or trying to prove that he is cheating on me even if he was never labeled a cheater and the person who was cheated on by ex was him so idk am i starting to be the problem? Because it says that secret convo can be initiated without other people's knowledge or can be done intentionally but it also shows in google that secret convo is no longer available and everything i labeled end to end. Is it really a messenger glitch? Btw he already blocked the girl but at some point they get online and offline the same time but thinking about it even if theyre both online and she was blocked why i still think theyre talking on messanger? Im starting to think im being the problem because i started overthinking and having anxiety that even if i get to see proof i still search for another reason to doubt.
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Secret conversation
Relationship Stress / by SaltedCaramel123
Last post
 August 23rd
...See more ​I saw my bf's messenger account and found out that his chat convo with the person i was jealous of was labeled secret conversation. He denied having secret convo and doesnt know why their convo was labeled like that. I confronted the woman involved and she said she doesnt know and when she let me borrow her phone their conversation was deleted. She said she doesnt know why it was deleted. And denied having secret conversation but said to joke about telling my bf that she admitted them having secret conversation. Our relationship continues but i get more insecure, jealous, hypervigilant and anxious. I even look down about mysel and truth is the relationship we have is slowly breaking apart because i keep doubting him and he cant give me the assurance i need because he thinks im attacking him or labeling him a cheater. It went to the point of shouting and calling names. I was told he is changing the way he is because i kept focusing on my own feelings without thinking about his and that im so into focusing on my healing that its making him a robot not to feel or do anything. Idk anymore what to do about this.
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Secret conversation
Newbie Hub / by SaltedCaramel123
Last post
 August 24th
...See more I saw a secret conversation label on my bf's messenger chat with the person i was jealous of. He denied having or exchange convo with her. Idk if he is telling me the truth because he said that it mightve been a glitch. But when i confronted the woman she deleted their convo saying they have no secret convo at all and that i can joke my bf into telling she admitted they had secret convo. Tbh these started destroying my trust to my bf and we end up having too much fight. Idk what to do anymore cus i lost sleep, lost my peace and im no longer the happy person i used to be before this relationship. Any advice or help please?
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