Secret convo pt2
So this is what's happening after seeing a label secret convo in messanger. Truth is we kept fighting over it because he thinks i dont see or acknowledge his efforts. At some point he told me that can my overthinking be fought by remembering his effort and reasons why he wouldnt do it? Even before he keeps telling me i was the one he like and introduced me to everyone and its been a long time that he didnt get into relationship because he doesnt fall to anyone easily. So why would he make a secret convo with someone just to destroy what he was trying to build with me and he said he doesnt know what kind of reassurance i need because he already exhausted all the ideas he can think of. Introducing me to everyone in his life and his family. Updating me wherever he go. Still no matter how many he proof he shows to me he said i still keep finding faults or trying to prove that he is cheating on me even if he was never labeled a cheater and the person who was cheated on by ex was him so idk am i starting to be the problem?
Because it says that secret convo can be initiated without other people's knowledge or can be done intentionally but it also shows in google that secret convo is no longer available and everything i labeled end to end. Is it really a messenger glitch?
Btw he already blocked the girl but at some point they get online and offline the same time but thinking about it even if theyre both online and she was blocked why i still think theyre talking on messanger? Im starting to think im being the problem because i started overthinking and having anxiety that even if i get to see proof i still search for another reason to doubt.
@SaltedCaramel123
YOU are not the problem.
Blaming it on a glitch sounds iffy at best. A person could send a secret message, but when he responds that was a choice to do it. Continuing takes it past it was just innocent and forget about it. deleted and blocked are not solutions. people can block or unblock in an instant.
Yes, we can overthink and not let go of our doubt. We want closure and security because we lost trust. The start of this was secret messages and him telling you about all he has done and how he updates you, could be Deflection.
Example my partner is an alcoholic. Yes, he has quit drinking and been sober for a long while but one day he was having issues and not himself and I asked about drinking, smelled his breath etc. He was mad and yelled about how I know he quit etc. I explained his past behavior will always be a flag if he was exhibiting any signs. It is not something that just goes away. If my partner protests too much and goes on about how I was not giving him credit.......... I know he is trying too hard.