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Val3nt1nee
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PathStep 20 Compassion hearts28 Forum posts7 Forum upvotes14 Current upvotes14 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2023 Member sinceOctober 28, 2023
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Hi, I'm new to 7 cups not too sure how it works, I'm just looking for people who will listen and people who have advice to give.

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The end.
Relationship Stress / by Val3nt1nee
Last post
 November 10th, 2023
...See more I've been posting on here a lot recently and it makes me feel better abt things. I stood up to my ex. He had been treating me poorly and I got so tired of it. I was at my low last night and he didn't care. Even as My friend he didn't care. I talked to an old friend about it and they gave me the courage to finally stand up to him. He moved on in a week. I told him that even though I hurt him he hurt me too and I was tired of being the one whose always saying sorry. He then blamed me and his friends for the way he feels. And how this new girl makes him feel human. He treated me like a game. I have been watching a lot more TV to try and get me to pay attention to literally anything else. And one of the characters said something that stood out to me. He said "you have to mess up the first time to get it right the second time". It helped me realize that even if this is the end of my chapter with him it's not the end of my story. He and I argued for a little while and he finally blocked me. I texted him one last time on messages and told him I hope he realizes what he's doing by using people to feel something is wrong and that I hope he becomes happy. And that I despise him. And I do. I miss the guy I fell in love with though. I despise whatever person I've been talking to because that's not the guy I love anymore. Things have been so hard for me the past few weeks. But I feel as though a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel good. For the first time in weeks I feel good about myself. That guy has been making me feel guilty for even existing and now I don't have to carry that around with me. I want to cry. I'm sad that it's over. But I'm so glad it's done. I threw out all of the gifts he gave me except a select few because they're things I'll actually use and that I can reclaim as my own. I feel free. Anyone reading this doesn't know the full story of my ex and I and couldn't fully grasp how much I've been hurting from this whole thing. But I'm so happy to be out of the situation and free of the burdens I carry with me. I want to keep sticking with 7 cups so when the time is right and the next person for me comes along I'll be healed and ready to start again. This turned out to be a pretty good day.
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Feelings.
Relationship Stress / by Val3nt1nee
Last post
 November 11th, 2023
...See more Here I am again. Having a meltdown about something that doesn't even matter anymore. My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me maybe 2 weeks ago? I don't know at this point. I went on his *** (big mistake) to find out what had been going on because he was acting different and when I saw him today he had a new bracelet on and when I asked where he got it from he said don't worry about it. And my curiosity got the better of me. He has a matching pfp with another girl. It's only been a couple weeks and he's already moved on. He treats me like dirt and I now find out he's already moved on. I don't know how to feel. Ever since we broke up I haven't been able to stop thinking about him and all I want is for him to come back to me. But now I don't think that'll ever happen. I want to cry but I can't. I've been through a roller coaster of emotions in the past few weeks since the break. All I want is for things to go back to some sort of normal but that's not going to happen now. He doesn't want a thing to do with me. How do I move on? How can I move on when all I can think about is him. I'm reminded of him everyday. What's the first step?
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Need some more advice
Relationship Stress / by Val3nt1nee
Last post
 November 9th, 2023
...See more So I just recently got out of a 2 year relationship and it's been so hard on me. I had done some things to this guy that I can't forgive myself for and I've expressed that to him many times. The reason he broke up with me is because he can't understand his feelings and has trouble identifying them. I struggled with that too I just kept it to myself instead of communicating with him which Is definitely where I went wrong and how I hurt him. It's a long story. The important thing is I recognize I was in the wrong. He told me we could be friends until he had figured his emotions out and I was ok with that because I still want him in my life. We had been talking a couple times a day for the past week even playing some video games together. Then at the end of that week when I had thought things were going to be ok (silly me right?) He told me not to text him for a while because he still needed to focus on himself. I guess I took that as not to text him for the rest of that day so I started texting him again the next day. During that day and the following day I started to notice him being more cold and aggressive towards me nothing physical ofc just passive aggressive words but I had finally had enough of being a doormat and told him the other day that he didn't have the right to treat me like I was less than a person. He then snapped back at me and said he had told me he didn't want to talk to me and that I had been pissing him off because I didn't listen. I didn't know that he meant not to talk to him for a few days or weeks because that was never stated. Idk if I made him sound like a bad guy in this but he's not. He's amazing he's just hurting. I really hope I didn't ruin the friendship we had. But I need some advice on what the next step is for me. I haven't been alone in 2 years and I'm not saying I'm completely alone I definitely have people to talk to I just haven't reached out to them in so long because of this relationship. I don't want to continue to bother my ex because I know he needs his time to find himself and reconnect with friends of his own. But I miss him so much and I can't help but wonder how he's doing or if he misses me. Someone please tell me what to do. I'm so lost.
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I need some advice
Relationship Stress / by Val3nt1nee
Last post
 October 28th, 2023
...See more I've been in a 2 year relationship with this guy I met in school. Things have been rough the past few months and we ended up taking a break but we got back together after a couple weeks. A few days ago I found out my boyfriend (?) Has been having doubts about whether he loves me or not. He told me it's not just me he's having doubts about but he wants to break up. I've been non stop crying because I love him too much and I'm so scared to lose him. I've tried to offer alternatives like going no contact, taking another break, or for him to start therapy again. He doesn't want to consider them. He just wants to be completely detached from me so he can take this time to himself and figure his feelings out. He doesn't know how he feels at all. I don't want to break up. I don't think it should even be an option. We've worked through so much together and he's been my person for so long and I'm scared that this is the end and he's not going to come back. However I can tell he loves me. He does a lot to show it. And I've seen him light up when he looks at me. All of these actions are recent. A few days before he told me all of this we had been cuddling and play fighting. And a day or two later he tells me everything. I feel like he's just scared just like me. Im trying to be more supportive of his decision since he's so set on it. But I'm just so confused. I don't know what to do with myself. I don't know if there's anything I can do to prevent it. I've just been talking to him as if nothing happened because he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I don't want to let him go. I've spent 2 years planning my life with him and I can't imagine it without him. I don't want anyone else other than him. What can I do?
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