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Wavescurrent7622
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TW:SA mentioned; dating after SA
Trauma Support / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 March 24th, 2024
...See more basically I’m 25 years old and the assault happened years ago. I haven’t told anyone about it and recently I’ve felt super confident in myself like i haven’t in years. Recently i decided i wanted to casually start dating again, nothing serious. Today I made an impulsive decision to get a drink with a guy in a few days even tho he was weird in his messages and my friends told me to avoid him. I think I have PTSD and I’m not sure if this is a manifestation of that and that I’m being impulsive bc of it or bc my confidence is finally back in myself. I don’t know how to tell the difference and that scares me a little. I’m canceling the date.
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Was this sexual assault?
Trauma Support / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 August 23rd, 2022
...See more Hi genuinely don’t know if this is sexual assault or something less than that and I need help bc I’ve never undergone something like this before I was at a new Indian tailor with my mom the other day getting fitted for an outfit for my cousins wedding. This guy came recommended from a family friend about a year ago. He has taken my moms measurements and tailored her outfit once perfectly nicely. Typically his wife is there when we are though. This time it was the first time I’m getting measured and his wife had left to go drop off food at a friends house. While taking my measurements this old man first feels on my shirt around my chest area- like the sides( not directly on anything). Then all of a sudden he lifts my shirt over my stomach which my mom said sometimes happens. But then he went a step further and lifted it over my bra and kept it there to “measure” and my mom was in shock as was I. I said in my second language to my mom what the hell is he doing and she didn’t know what to do either. Then he repeatedly kept having me lift my shirt/ prolong my measurements of the blouse specifically in that area. Afterwards my mom said maybe he does that bc I was wearing a wired bra and he needed to know for accuracy but she also said never had she seen a tailor do that and that he clearly took liberties bc his wife left. I called the friend who recommended him a year ago and she said that she actually stopped using him bc he made her and several others very uncomfortable, so it wasn’t just me- but when I explained that he lifted my shirt over my bra and etc, she said he’s never done that before. In about two weeks I have to go back to this guy to try on the outfits and my mom says we’ll take my dad with us this time, but won’t tell him why and what happened bc he’d get mad. genuinely asking does this fall under sexual assault? Is it harrasment? I don’t want to accuse the man bc he is a tailor and I legit don’t know if this is normal or not. But at the same time if this under that definition, I’d either report him or inform anyone we know not to go to him. I’m scared. I just don’t know what to think..
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Caregiver for autistic brother
Family & Caregivers / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 April 22nd, 2022
...See more Hi. I’m 23 and my brother is 26. I know most ppl think of autism as a blessing and that it’s ableist to talk about how hard it can be. I recently read a thread from high functioning autistic ppl on Twitter about how there’s too many stories about siblings of autistic ppl and their experience. I get that, I do. i just feel really alone in my experience as a caretaker of my brother. He’s not only autistic, he has hallucinations, seizures, severe ocd, learning disabilities, weight management issues, and more. when we were children he was physically abusive to me and my other brother. Not just a casual hit or two, but straight up targeted abuse towards us. We used to beg my dad to stay home from work to stop him. My other brother is in therapy now for it. My parents never knew about the extent of it until we were way older like 5th grade, as we weren’t really allowed to speak about it without fear and we didn’t know what was wrong with him until high school I experienced this abuse until he was put on meds that worked for him. howeevrr he has other issues that have contributed to other problems. Last week for example I walked in a room and like countless times over the years I found him touching himself. He’s got very little self control and it’s frustrating bc as a woman I’m intimidated and scared of him, but he’s also my brother and I’m a caregiver. I was bullied for his actions in middle school as well. He was selectively mute in the school for no real reason. He could speak at home and other places. He later told us that was bc he thought and the voices told him it would be fun to torture us. I used to get bullied by classmates about how weird he was and why wouldn’t he speak. When you hear that kinda thing u build resentment. I don’t hate him, but I do have this build up of anger inside of me bc of those types of actions. I know this is probably ableist post. I just have no one in my life I have been able to vent to about this. As a child I was scared, as an adult I’m resentful, and now I’m just sad that I lost out on my childhood.
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Trauma Support / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 November 23rd, 2021
...See more I don’t know I feel very messed up by saying this. I grew up with a very violent childhood. Now I’m in my twenties and I find myself craving/needing that violence against me again? Like I will actively seek it out in the form of movies tv shows books, about domestic violence and child abuse bc I feel like it fulfills something i need. Idk if it’s about me being feeling like I’m back in that situation and my mind is so messed up now from it that it craves it. I also am terrified that I will seek it out in romantic relationships as well. Please anyone help me and tell me if this is normal reaction to trauma
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Lonely again
Depression Support / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 November 28th, 2021
...See more I have no one. I’m all alone. I’m worthless and no one will love me. I’m a terrible person.
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Binging
Eating Disorder Support / by Wavescurrent7622
Last post
 November 26th, 2021
...See more Hi. I feel empty so I eat to fill that void but afterwards I’m sick and disgusted. I’m so sad and tired of binging but I can’t seem to stop
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