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azureShade7755
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My anxiety of overthinking
Anxiety Support / by azureShade7755
Last post
 February 11th
...See more Here i am again. Back after a year and in the exact same position.. I thought i was ready to try find a partner again, but im broken. I just cant handle the dating scene. I matched with this girl, beautiful, funny and a good person. We have talked everyday for 3 weeks, good morning, good night, I hope your day goes well. All this included... we met 2 days ago for a sunset dinner date. It was beautiful, she was beautiful, everything went amazingly, we talked for 4 hours, about life, family, personal stories and everything in between. I drive her back to her place and say goodbye, we hug. I said I had a great time and we should do this again. She says yes and hugs me again. Then says, text me. She sends me a text on the way home saying "Drive safely~ today was so fun thank you for your time☺️ Im pretty sleepy haha.. provably could fallen asleep soon🫠" I reply i had alot of fun too and goodnight, she responds in the morning saying 'lets hang out again soon' I think everything is perfect, we've progressed into possibly a good start to a relationship. But now, she seems distant, messages slower and more empty. She still replies. But really late, she says shes napping but my anxiety takes control. 'Shes talking to other guys' I say to myself. She says shes on her period and it makes her really tired... I feel wrong for reading so much into these small small details. Especially because shes agreed to go on another date on Valentines day. But I cant help but feel shes just being kind.. or using me for approval. I just dont trust anything. Why would she choose me.. if she was really interested, why would she take so long to reply. Would she not want to talk all the time... Am I crazy, shes a korean girl living here in Australia. So her English isn't amazing. Am I reading into what is actually just a language and culture difference? I just dont know anymore... anyway. Thanks for coming to my TED talk...
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How long do I wait for a girl who says she's not ready for a relationship
Relationship Stress / by azureShade7755
Last post
 April 17th, 2025
...See more I'm not sure if this is the right place for this. But I need to get it out of my head. How long to give a girl that says she need a bit more time... I matched with this girl on Feb 15th and weve been talking and going on dates since then. We've been on 12 dates so far. About 2 weeks in she messaged me when she was tipsy, confessing to me that she was very recently out of a 7-8month relationship that she thought was going really well when suddenly he broke up with her. So she said she has some trauma from that and shes not sure if she wants anything serious right now. I said that I totally understand and that im willing to wait on her. We continued talking and going on dates. About 3 weeks ago. I asked the question again. Just asking where we stand and whether she thinks this is going anywhere. And she said she 'needs a bit more time'... I said sure. I just wanted to make sure that she knew i what I was there for and was still interested... I also told her that "i'm willing to wait, but the more i wait, the more worried I am that I'll fall into that friendzone that I don't want" She responded "I know. I totally get where your coming from" I also added at the end "also on the off chance that your just not interested anymore that's totally fine too, no pressure." She simply responded "stop thinking so much and go to bed" Ever since then she's sort of been distant as such. Convos have been shorter then they used to. And not as deep or meaningful. She still messages me everyday. And we've still been going on dates... However this last week has been a roller-coaster. I thought that maybe she was losing interest with me and was ready to accept that she's not interested in me in that way. But she messaged me out of the blue on Tuesday saying "should we go to the arcade?" I was kinda surprised cause I had already accepted my fate... sadly tho. I was busy that night so I had to turn her down. I tried to reschedule but she said that Tuesday night was her only free night. She's in uni, has 5 assignments due this week, and works 2 jobs day and night. So I get that reasoning... But Ever since I turned her down she seems completely distant... leaving me on opened and most of time when she responds its just a pic with no text.... I really feel like I should move on. She's treating me with some serious disrespect and rudeness but I'm trying to come up with excuses for her... she liked an in̈sta reel that was sort of about like apologising to an ex for how confusing she is... how out of touch she is with her emotions... So I know she's suffering through something... but it's been 2 months... I just don't know how long to give? How long do I forgive her actions? How long do I hold onto hope? Is she interested in me... or is she just using me to heal. I've never been through a break up that tough. Or that long. Normally only taking 2 weeks maybe a month to move on. It's just these days drag on and on. Constantly thinking about if I messed it up somewhere. These 2 months have both gone so fast and so slow. So how long is normally acceptable. How long do I hold on for?
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I just feel lost, alone, yet so in love
General Support / by azureShade7755
Last post
 April 17th, 2025
...See more I've tried hard all my life to never let anyone in. Because I was always the person people went to for help. I was always the person to talk people down from bad times and distract from problems or sadness. But i finally let my walls down for the first time in 10 years... But recently my mind has been flooded with emotions that I just can't process. I met a girl that I truly care for and want to do nothing but help her heal and be the one to make her smile. Everytime I see that smile it melts through my heart. But she's throwing mixed signals... somedays I feel that she cares, then others I feel like I'm invisible... just a distraction from her traumatic past... she's told me that it's not the case. But she won't go exclusive with me. I know she's seeing others too... I want to be the one that helps her heal. That shows her that not all guys are the same. That I won't leave her if she gives me the chance. But I feel im never going to get that chance. This situation is making me overthink and dwell in my head. I've lost interest in everything that once made me content. I feel like I have no control over anything in my life. My recent job change making me feel like I've accomplished nothing. I lowered my walls for this girl, for the first time in my life I wanted to let someone in. Let someone get close. I've never been able to feel vulnerable around anyone. I brought that on myself with this persona I have created for myself. But I just don't know what to do anymore... I'm lost, alone and yet so so in love... *** this isn't a plea for help or attention... I have no intentions of doing any harm. I just felt like I needed to get this out there. Get it off my chest... ***
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