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General Support / by brightAcres9944
Last post
 August 6th, 2025
...See more I'd like an opinion if it's not too much. Just to allow myself to acknowledge if I'm wrong. The other day I went shopping with my partner after l'd just finished work, we don't live together and l'd travelled 30 minutes to go see him and I drove to the shop. Anyhow, I used my trolley token to release the trolley and then proceeded to push the trolley around the store while we both used it. We got back to my car and l'd finished loading my stuff up, I then proceeded to help him and put his stuff in the car. He continued messing with stuff in the boot and I then got in the car thinking he'd return the trolley without question. He then proceeded to leave the trolley at the boot and get in the passenger seat. I without hesitation then got out the car and returned the trolley without questioning his act. I then got back in the car and didn't mention anything, he then started calling me rude and that I need help for expecting him to return the trolley. I don't seen an issue with how I acted but he wouldn't talk to me if I didn't apologise for my behaviour and rudeness. Fast torward to today and I travelled to his house to pick something up, he then expected me to clean his house, he'd proceed to go into a mood if I didn't, I cleaned his whole house for around 2 hours and when putting things away l accidentally knocked the mop over which he'd placed in the way of the door hinges, he then started an argument with me and demanded I apologised for my behaviour. He also argues that Ive got an issue with being controlling because I left him to put the trolley back. His previously gone through my phone and saw my journal and then proceeded to call me names for issues I was writing down, and saying he pity’s me. I don’t feel any love from him, and I’ve had this conversation with him but he argues that it’s because of his upbringing. However, there’s not an ounce of support from him. I’m a law student and from the get go his done nothing but bring me down for it, telling me I’m incapable because I ruined my life prior to meeting him because I have 2 children. He also states I’m lucky to have him and no one else would accept me with two children. I just need an outsiders point of view. Am I a bad person? Am I controlling? Am I rude for my behaviour? I honestly don’t know anymore.
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Relationship Stress / by brightAcres9944
Last post
 August 3rd, 2025
...See more Hi, I’d like an opinion from someone outside of the issue. My boyfriend is saying I’m rude and have an issue with not accepting that it’s my fault, however I don’t see it from his point of view clearly. So we’ve just been shopping, I used my trolley token to release the trolley. I pushed the trolley the whole way round, no issues. We don’t live together and are in a bad patch (maybe unrelated) we walk to my car and load the car up, I do my part and help him with his. He is stood at the boot messing around with his shopping and I get in the drivers seat, assuming he’d return the trolley. He then walks from the boot and gets into the passenger seat. He has a look on his face, and I get out the drivers seat and return the trolley. I don’t say anything to not cause an argument and then I pull onto the road and he starts saying he did that for the principal. His now saying I’m rude and have issues that I need to resolve. I don’t see an issue with my actions, if he drove then I’d always return the trolley. But I used my car to drive to the shops, I’d also been at work this morning and I’m tired. Am I in the wrong?
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Relationship Stress / by brightAcres9944
Last post
 July 5th, 2025
...See more I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, we’ve had our fair share of problems. I’ve caught him talking to other females and on dating sites and he has always said he thought we were over, we went on holiday last April and I caught him messaging another female but he quickly swiped the message away and instantly got defensive. We did get past this. However recently his changed, he started talking and messaging his ex and begging for her to meet him. He then came to me and begged me to help him get help for his issues. I agreed to stay upon him getting help, since this his blamed me for his action. We went out with his friends to a beer festival and I thought we had all had a good time but then as soon as we arrived home he accused me of flirty with his friends, he strangled me but then said he ment to do it in a sexual way. But I stupidly believed him and stayed. I told him the other day I no longer want to be in that relationship. His unable to change his behaviour and I fear his going to become more violent. He locked me in and took my phone off me, blocked my phone and threatened to set fire to the house because I wanted to leave. I agreed to stay and he apologised and said he was just scared. I know I need to move on, I feel sorry for him though. I know his going through mental issues and he has other issues that need to be dealt with but he refuses. His told me he doesn’t love me so I really don’t understand why his trying to keep me around.
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