buluberie514 Member Profile

Everyday feels like dreaming

Depression Support / by buluberie514

November 29th, 2025

what should I do

Motivation & Accountability / by buluberie514

October 31st, 2025

...See more I'm a foundation law student, currently caring for 4 cats- one stray who I picked up last year, one paralyzed stray rescued in may, and two paralyzed cat's kittens. On May, my toxic friend that I had known for five years suggested to rescue the cat who got into an accident around our old school (some junior posted it) the cat were injured for days. But no one helped it, so I went to rescue it together with the friend.. I never thought of contacting some prof rescuers that time. Well I can't wind the clock back so After that, we found out she's paralyzed. We had to discuss who will foster her everything. And my friend, she doesn't want to take responsibility. I did everything such as taking care, planning for the treatment, fundraising for the med bills on my own. All she did was taking the treatment pictures and bills to post up on her social media. I got tired of always texting the cats situation and caring it all my own. I have to press the cats bladder everyday to let her peepoo. I even got fever cough and flu during that time( I'm terrible at handling stress). And my friend did not care about me. I quarreled with her, and got scoldings back from her boyfriend. And they boycott me from the friend group. But the other friends did not care about me too, they're just, well, as long as they can go out and play, not staying by the one who can't go out and have fun. I care about them, and I like fairness. So I ask one of them, that I treasured: "She treated me like this, and y'all are okay with it? Is it fair? She replied: "She treats you bad, not us. Your not wrong, but I can't do anything." Then I cried and cried and not eaten for a few days. Because during highschool, we all stick together for everyday. Although the toxic friend always treats me bad, but it's my fault for not fighting back for myself. I should have leave them. Now I'm studying while settling this. The paralyzed cat is sick again, and needed a lot of money. I'm preparing for my exams, doing my assignments, making fundraising post for the cat bills, coping with family problems and trying to walk out of that friend group. What shoud I be feeling? I'm angry, sad, tired, pain and depressed.

Any law students

Student Support / by buluberie514

December 3rd, 2025

Am I wrong for being kind?

Friendship Support / by buluberie514

August 25th, 2025

...See more Got backstabbed by a few friends this year. There was a girl in the group who always treated me badly and took advantage of me. She was new at the school when I met her, and I brought her into the group because I thought, If I were the new kid, I’d hope someone to talk to me. But once she was in, she basically ate me up I guess. She caused half of my depression. After we graduated, a cat in our old school got into an accident (some junior posted on social media for help) We both love cats. So she asked me, "Wanna bring it to the vet?" . I thought for a while, cuz I knew her pattern. But, "Okay let's go tmr". Turn's out, the cat is pregnant and paralyzed. Long story short, she didn’t want to help. So I pushed her away. We quarreled, she blocked me, so did her boyfriend (who was also in the group). Then they opened a new group chat without me, everyone just moved on. I cried for an entire frickin week. I tried my best. I took the cat for treatment, pressed her bladder twice a day. Last month, I got in touch with one of our friend. She asked about the cats situation, the friend who runaway. I told her everything, at first she agreed that the friend was really awful. But two days ago, after we went out together, her attitude suddenly flipped. For example, she started posting on social media, throwing shade at me about things I never did (without mentioning my name, but I could tell). Then today she suddenly asked me how that friend treated me, and said things like, “Didn’t you want to cyberbully her? haha” It's just weird, I didn't do these stuffs. But recently, I can feel that she's a fake person. But it's too late I guess. I'm just stupid for trusting people. These are all my highschool friends. I'm going to college soon. Kinda sick to meet new people...

In the miserable

35 & Over Community / by buluberie514

August 4th, 2025

...See more In May, a friend and I rescued a paralyzed cat. We took it to the vet for treatment. Afterward, it became clear that my friend didn't want to help. Whenever we discussed it, she'd say things like, "I'm busy, can you and the cat treatment wait?" So I pushed her away. But when I asked her to help a little with the expenses, she started scolding me. We argued, she blocked me, so did her boyfriend. We were in the same friend group. Then, they boycott me and started a new group chat. They immediately went out together and post on social media. I have to open social media to I need to update about the cats, so I would click on theur stories. It's just helpless because everyone else in the group thought it didn't matter who was right or wrong, as long as they could went out and have fun. They're like "it's just you and her's matter, we don't care" and "Just focus on the cat" It felt like a hole opened in my heart. I'm sad and angry and disappointed. I was also a little depressed. I hadn't go for a doctor, my family doesn't allow me. Back to the cat, I found out she was pregnant. Fortunately, the C-section was successful, and she delivered two babies. Right now, I'm so tired. If putting them to a shelter, they won't be able to treat her legs, which means she'll be paralyzed forever. I just graduated from high school and should be going to college. My family and friends keep putting pressure on me. They say "time is running out"'. My friends are all studying and working (I'm still applying for jobs), and I've kind of decided what to study. But I can't because I'll be super tired. I can't live near university, so I have to drive. It's far, so I have to get up early, settle the cats before I go out. Then when I get home, I have to clean up after them. You know, a paralyzed cat and two baby kittens. (Took almost one hour tidy everything) I'm still teaching the kittens on how to use the litter box. What should I do? Someone might suggest putting them in a shelter, but as I mentioned, I don't want her to be forever paralyzed, any shelter will definitely not bring her to treatment. It's hard. I don't have anyone to support me. But thankfully, my mom is helping with the expenses. Even though these friends are toxic, but we still have fun together in the past. I'm going to a concert with a friend in the friend group in a few weeks (The one who called me to just focus on the cats) We bought the tickets months ago. Like should I go? I like do love their music.. Do anyone have this similar situation...or just, talk to me

What should I do?

General Support / by buluberie514

July 16th, 2025

...See more I've just finished highschool and been caring for an injured pregnant stray cat. I should be studying in college now, but I don't know what to study. I'm mentally ill for years but since I'm underage and nobody wants to bring me to the hospital. My parents said it's unnecessary and if I have any sick records nobody will to hire me in future. But WHy? They brought me to counseling but all the counselors just suggest me to go for a doctor. I just shut my emotions down and keep myself busy. And now, I lost my friends, can also say that I DUMPED them. It's a super complicated story. Like there's a friend inside the group who always treats me bad(she's been using me)but good to others, now we quarreled and surprisingly everyone just stands on her side. I tried messaged nicely to them for trying to solve the problem together, no one respond. I have feelings for them since we've known each others for five years PLUS(since primary). I don't know what to feel right now, their my top one before that. I don't really make much friends because I dislike talking. I'm sick of staying in a house where parents always quarrel and I don't have anyone to tell. Sometimes I complained why do I deserve this, I feel unlucky in life. But I'm trying to do good. (I have broken English sorry)

How to handle toxic relationship

Depression Support / by buluberie514

July 3rd, 2025

Bio

Recent forum posts

Considering Therapy?

About Us

Get Started

Online Therapy

Terms

Bio

Recent forum posts

Considering Therapy?

About Us

Get Started

Online Therapy

Terms

Personal Conversation Requests

General Conversation Requests

New Messages