Am I wrong for being kind?
Got backstabbed by a few friends this year.
There was a girl in the group who always treated me badly and took advantage of me. She was new at the school when I met her, and I brought her into the group because I thought, If I were the new kid, I’d hope someone to talk to me. But once she was in, she basically ate me up I guess. She caused half of my depression.
After we graduated, a cat in our old school got into an accident (some junior posted on social media for help) We both love cats. So she asked me, "Wanna bring it to the vet?" . I thought for a while, cuz I knew her pattern. But, "Okay let's go tmr".
Turn's out, the cat is pregnant and paralyzed. Long story short, she didn’t want to help. So I pushed her away. We quarreled, she blocked me, so did her boyfriend (who was also in the group). Then they opened a new group chat without me, everyone just moved on. I cried for an entire frickin week.
I tried my best. I took the cat for treatment, pressed her bladder twice a day.
Last month, I got in touch with one of our friend. She asked about the cats situation, the friend who runaway. I told her everything, at first she agreed that the friend was really awful. But two days ago, after we went out together, her attitude suddenly flipped. For example, she started posting on social media, throwing shade at me about things I never did (without mentioning my name, but I could tell). Then today she suddenly asked me how that friend treated me, and said things like, “Didn’t you want to cyberbully her? haha”
It's just weird, I didn't do these stuffs. But recently, I can feel that she's a fake person. But it's too late I guess. I'm just stupid for trusting people.
These are all my highschool friends. I'm going to college soon. Kinda sick to meet new people...
@buluberie514
Keep being you 🥰
Let your kindness shine bright!
The world needs more of it!
But you can still be you, be kind and maintain boundaries.
You don't need to tolerate disrespect, rudeness or people stepping on you.
You can be a light in the world while also knowing you deserve the same back!
💕💜
Thank you🤍
I do think the world lacks kindness..
@buluberie514
I think we sometimes learn the hard way. I think it was cool for you to include her in the first place and try to be friends with a new girl at school.
As for the rest of the group were they really your friends if the believed a person who threw shade at you. You are correct these are high school friends and since you are moving on to college they will be further and further back in your rear view mirror. This is why IMO so many do not include new person as there is always a risk they are not whom they seem to be.
I’ve known them for quite a few years, that's why I trusted them.. I’m actually a slow-to-warm-up kind of person, but at the same time, I tend to show people my wounds too easily, and that makes me easily getting hurt. Maybe I really need a therapist...🫠
@buluberie514
it sounds like you have a grasp on your things.
Therapy often is getting you to that place. Helpful but the work and effort to decide what to do is still on you.
I understand the slow to warm up and showing our feelings too easy making getting hurt possible. It is always hard to deal with people some we think we can trust...... can still let us down and cutting ourselves off to protect ourselves is limiting. perhaps developing a game face to not show anyone they got to you.