What should I do?
I've just finished highschool and been caring for an injured pregnant stray cat. I should be studying in college now, but I don't know what to study. I'm mentally ill for years but since I'm underage and nobody wants to bring me to the hospital. My parents said it's unnecessary and if I have any sick records nobody will to hire me in future. But WHy? They brought me to counseling but all the counselors just suggest me to go for a doctor. I just shut my emotions down and keep myself busy.
And now, I lost my friends, can also say that I DUMPED them. It's a super complicated story. Like there's a friend inside the group who always treats me bad(she's been using me)but good to others, now we quarreled and surprisingly everyone just stands on her side. I tried messaged nicely to them for trying to solve the problem together, no one respond. I have feelings for them since we've known each others for five years PLUS(since primary). I don't know what to feel right now, their my top one before that. I don't really make much friends because I dislike talking.
I'm sick of staying in a house where parents always quarrel and I don't have anyone to tell.
Sometimes I complained why do I deserve this, I feel unlucky in life. But I'm trying to do good. (I have broken English sorry)
@buluberie514 I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I want you to know you're not alone in this 🤍 I can relate with you ❤️ The true friends will stay and support you through thick and thin, and it's okay to take a break and step back when things start to feel overwhelming 🤍
Your feelings are totally valid and they matter. Health is important, and shouldn't be compromised... try not to shut down your emotions, It's okay to let them know about your health and how much it's affecting you. If they still don't listen, please let someone else's know. Your health should always be the first priority. and I'm glad you've reached out here 🤍
Thank you for taking care of that cat, even in the middle of all this, it really says a lot about your heart.❤️ I wish you have a great time here and find the support you're looking for🍀 Sending lots of love towards you! 🐾❤️
Thank you, I appreciate it😺🩷
I actually read a lot of times but then forgotten to reply🥹
@buluberie514 ❤️❤️
@buluberie514 I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. You could always try and speak with chat gpt it is so useful 🙌🏼
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How is your week, going?
The cat gave birth to two kittens, their two weeks now! But look bigger than normal two weeks kitten myb cuz only two shares the milk. They've just opened eyes and it's adorable
@buluberie514
That's amazing!
Did you see them getting born or did you wake up and they are already there?
actually it gave birth through c-section, cuz her back is paralyzed. I brought her to do treatment before then just realized she's pregnant before the week of giving birth. Luckily it's just 2 babies
@buluberie514
How are your parents handling all of this?
Only my mom supports me. She helps me on the medical fees, I raised funds but it's not enough
@buluberie514
It sounds like you are taking care of them the best you can.
It is good your mom is supportive.
Although she complains but she still helps hehe
@buluberie514
What mother's don't complain, right?
What else is happening in life?
Nothing much, I have nothing else to do. Just got fired from work cuz I got sick. I can't balance caring the cats and work same time
@buluberie514
I’m sorry to hear about the job. Was it physical sickness or mental sickness that they fired you? I hope the boss was at least respectful.
It's physical. I'm sick for two weeks🫠
What kind of illness do you have? I haven't been feeling well in the past couple of days. Mostly tired. I usually don't spend much time online, but when I found 7Cups I was happy to find a place so unique. Maybe that's why I feel more tired than usual.
I actually discovered 7cups last week. Are you feeling better now? I had fever and cough+flu, I coughed till puke but got well naturally.
@buluberie514
I’m glad you were able to get better naturally. I think I am better today. I try to exercise every day, not very big exercises. For example, I will put a medium sized ball between my knees and squeeze for a count of 5, then I release and repeat for a total of 10 times. I’ve got about 12 different exercises like that. Yesterday, I was too tired to do anything, but today I am going to try (as soon as I send this message) 🙂
It's almost bedtime here! That sounds healthy. I dislike exercise, the last time I exercise is when p.e class(it's been months😶🌫️oops. Maybe I should change my lifestyle. Like eating one or two meals a day. I just don't have the appetite when I'm down
@buluberie514
Yes, exercise isn’t for everybody. The good thing about no longer having mandatory P.E. classes is that we get to choose to do it or not, and there are so many activities available. We’re there classes that you liked in school? I had an okay school experience, but I didn’t feel strongly about any of my classes. I ended up studying English literature and writing in university, but I didn’t know I liked these subjects until after high school.
I also like English! Though my teacher isn’t fond of me because I often sleep in class. I’m always mentally exhausted. But I still get good grades in language subjects. I take Japanese lessons after school, but I skip or doze off a lot... Luckily my classmates are very nice to fill me in on what I missed. And at last I scored well too!
I’d love to hear about your English Literature journey! I'm still figuring what to study..
@buluberie514
Thanks for asking ... I'll be happy to share my English journey with you!
It might be in multiple parts 🤔 ... I will think it over in the next day or so!
@buluberie514
Would it be okay if we continued our conversation in the Pen Pal thread? (I can set us up and then copy/paste my story over there.)
Where is that?
@buluberie514
It’s in this forum: Peer Groups -> Pen Pals … and anyone can start a thread to converse with one or more people (you can see by all the other examples). As far as I can see from the outside, I think people are respectful of these threads and don’t try to be disruptive (since it is all based on everyone’s honor).
When you have time to check it out, let me know what you think 🙂
I think I don't have this? I can't find it👁️👁️
Hi ... are you able to get to this page:
Got it!
@buluberie514
Great!! I just created the thread for our conversations!
@buluberie514
(Just letting you know that I finished my exercises 😊 Thank you so much for your support!!)
So sorry to hear what you going through
What country you are in?
uhm Malaysia
Hello ...
@buluberie514 ... and ... @marsborn
Next time this might be easier in the Chat section. I just checked it out, and if there is a low number or no one in the room ... maybe we can use it.
Or we can create a Pen Pal thread too. These are the only ideas I have. (I'm very new here, and I don't know the best way to carry on a conversation without guessing if anyone is still on the forum or not.)
I am in the U.S., eastern time zone. I understand @buluberie514 is in Malaysia and we are opposite each other. It is definitely time for me to go to bed.
Enjoy the kittens ... and see you soon!
Uhh u see
In Malaysi it might be different. In us you can make your decisions In your age and there’s a law that doesn’t allow therapist to share anything with college or university. So asking for help doesn’t affect your life. You can email any therapist in your country and ask if something like that would work too
mhm I see
I think it's almost the same except in here we must be accompanied by an adult.
Thanks for giving me ideas. I'll consider it while waiting for my 18th birthday
@buluberie514
I'm sorry for all these. It's really so much. I understand what you say, parents get angry and say it's not good for your papers to go to see a doctor for mental things and expect you to make things okay immediately yourself. And I know how it can feel... at least in me, I thought like is that more important than myself? But I think that's because they don't understand the pain of these things... I hug you tightly🫂🫂🫂❤️❤️ living with own problems is difficult enough and conflicts in house weigh too much on anyone. And I'm proud of you, you're taking care of yourself and that cat too💖
About friends, I wanna say I had some friends when I wasn't at good mental condition. And they made it worse. They didn't support me emotionally. Idk, maybe they didn't know how to do that, or just wanted me happy and caring for them, anyway, there was a person who helped me, so even if many people don't understand some problems, I'm sure there are rare kind people who care and help... I never forget her, and I hope you find someone like this in your way too🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️❤️ you're not alone, hug you tightly🫂🫂🫂 best wishes for you dear🫂💖
Thank you.. I gotchu too
My friends doesn't care about my feelings, I'm the one who always care for them
@buluberie514
I understand... that's painful. Your feelings are valid, even if they don't care. I hope you get able to leave them in a good way for you and find the right people❤️
How are you today? How was your day?
I wish the bests for you dear💖💖🫂🫂🫂
I didn't do anything physical. I just lie down and think a lot. How about you?
@buluberie514
Oh... I sometimes spend hours doing the same. I'm doing okay somehow, trying to study, school opens soon. I hope you're well.💖 Good night🌃🫂
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Hope you didn't overthink...
