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What should I do with this guy? :(
Relationship Stress / by elizabetha101
Last post
 February 19th, 2023
...See more Last week on February 11th, I started talking to a guy I knew was the older brother of this guy I knew of in high school. We had never talked ever in our lives before but I really like everything about him. On Valentine’s Day was our first date and it went really well and we had a lot to talk about. We left the restaurant and I asked him if he still wanted to hang out or go home and he said he still wanted to hang out. So we just decided to hang out in the car because the weather was fine and I didn’t want to go to his house on the first date. But I feel kind of stupid and I guess it’s because maybe I’m lonely for what I did next, but we were having a great conversation in the car and he asks if he could kiss me, and everything was just right there was a lot of chemistry throughout the date. So I said yes and so we kissed, and then it turned into a make out which then turned into a little bit more of like some frisky stuff, we didn’t go terribly far at all though just mostly heavy make out stuff. We had stayed out from 6-12am. After the date we had decided we wanted to see each other the next day too, but when it got time to it he had been on the phone with his mom apparently for awhile and gave me the option to come to his house and watch a movie because he was tired. Another thing to note is he works Monday-Friday sometimes Saturday from 6am-5pm so he has every right to be tired, I also knew that he doesn’t lie about what he’s doing day to day because we always *** pics back and forth so I knew he was home the whole time and whatever. When he mentioned for me to come over for the movie he even said that if I didn’t want to come over the second date that would be fine. And I said we could just hang out another time. So then on Friday of this week I kind of more of made the plans to hang out and I went to his house this time because he was going to be getting off late and we just watched tv. He was really nice and made me food and even mentioned little things like oh one day I’ll make you a better dinner than this cause our hang out was a little last minute, and even jokingly asked his cat if he approved of me. But the whole hangout was nice but we definitely didn’t talk as much as the first, and it kinda sucked but I heard his *** notification go off on his phone. We did meet on *** so I knew he had it but still kinda sucks cause I thought we were supposed to be talking although we’re not exactly exclusive and have only been talking a week. Basically last night was good, we made out a little more and everything and he kissed my stomach and we did a little more with just our clothes on though. We agreed we would maybe see each other again Sunday. And before I left Friday I even got the courage to ask him where do we stand, and he said well we will see I definitely think it’s too early to tell. Which I totally agree with him! I’m just really not okay with us only being a hookup kinda deal. But yea I don’t know I’ve just been feeling like the first date was the only great thing and he seemed to really have feelings for me then, now I’m getting scared if he doesn’t like me as much and I don’t know if I’m overthinking. I haven’t texted him all day and he hasn’t texted me on his own either, which is making me sad. I don’t know now if I’m just a sexual thing for him although I only was like that with him because I really like him and want to date him. So I don’t know what to do now because he doesn’t text me on his own, and to be honest he never really did except the first day we initially started talking. I don’t know if he’s just kinda one of those people that won’t really text you unless you text him, or I don’t even know. And I kind of hate that it feels like I’m the only one making plans because I asked if we could hang Sunday because he told me he was free then, I don’t know if I should continue with him or what exactly I should do. please help :(
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I’m stuck
Relationship Stress / by elizabetha101
Last post
 February 13th, 2022
...See more So my boyfriend of a year and a half recently we have been fighting a lot this past month because he has been prioritizing his new friends. Our relationship is such a serious one that we were going to move in together and get married this summer. I’m about to graduate high school and he is 19. All of his so called new friends are high schoolers and I know the reason why he could be prioritizing them is because they are popular and he has always been bullied and never had a lot of friends like this. But still he is even very religious and always says how god has put us back together 2 times when I prayed for it and when he prayed for strength to get over me he says he never got it. But either way a few days ago he said he wanted to come over and talk after I was done with school. Then after school he changed it to he just wanted to call instead. So we did and he was telling me the reasons he didn’t want to be together like he feels like I don’t give him his privacy or freedoms. Because he wants to drink and vape and he doesn’t like that I tell him he shouldn’t as well as cause I have been complaining he’s with his friends always. And so I told him that’s it I’m coming over and I did. And we talked in person and I cried. And it seemed like we fixed it and he’s like yes I know we’re meant to be and everything and we will fix our issues. He was also like let’s hang out tomorrow. And so the next day we were going to but instead he texted me hey “hey I don’t want to cancel last minute so I’m just going to say it now I don't know if we can hang out today.” And he’s like “I’m not feeling the love anymore.” And I went on to say how different he was the day before and that he could have just sent me off then but why didn’t he? And there was something, a spark of some kind. And when I saying things like can we at least hang out and finish talking and try to fix our problems and stay together, and all he would say is I don’t know. And he even put crying emojis sometimes too which makes no sense. So finally I just say okay and if you don’t want to give us another chance then it’s fine but I want to still be together. And all he said is I don’t know. Basically now all he has done is changed his instagram profile to just him instead of me and him, deleted the highlight stories he had of me and him but hasn’t archived the pictures of me and him. And we have broke up before so I know he is the type of person to archive them immediately. But now we haven’t talked in 2 days since he last said I don’t know and I just said okay to that. He has still even kept his life 360 location on which is something he would also turn off. And all he does now is every single day he has been hanging out with his friends all night long till 2am or 3am. I just have no idea what to do because I’m thinking no contact is the best thing to do on this situation. But at the same time we’re not even technically broken up and I have no idea how this can be resolved if he always makes himself so busy and his friends can always hang out. Because it’s like when will we talk then and when will he have time to have regret and remorse if he’s always busy because of his friends. And I even got him something for Valentine’s Day a few weeks ago. I just I don’t know what to do because I still love him and he’s like a best friend too that I was able to talk about anything to. And now by this happening it seems all of my dreams about this summer that I waited for so long are being crushed. Please help😔
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Relationship struggle
Relationship Stress / by elizabetha101
Last post
 February 6th, 2022
...See more I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and 6 months now. Me and him have talked very seriously about getting married and everything we have the same life goals. My parents have even agreed that we can live together and get married as soon as I graduate college, and this is all my decision my parents never even influenced this. Either way we have broken up 2 times both of which he broke up with me. The first time was at 6 months, he just didn’t know if I was the one, a few days later he came back begging for us to be together. And during those few days he immediately hung out with a girl and she kissed him but they had both just gotten out of relationships and missed their exes. So he came back to me and that girl went back to her ex. The 2nd time he broke up was at our 1 year he was like I don’t think our morals/ family’s are the same so I don’t think it will work out plus I want to go to Utah for college. 2 weeks later he came texting me asking to be friends and then we talked on the phone and we both revealed that we still want to be with each other. During that time we were separated he had applied to a college far away but took it all back and applied to the college close to home that we both originally planned on going to. Then 2 months after we got back the 2nd time things were going better than ever until my friend told me some 2 girls that I know of had said something about that my boyfriend has sent them stuff a few months back (dirty pics) and talked dirty. I investigated, I already knew his social media passwords so I went on one of his apps and found old texts from when we were dating at our 9 months about. It was dirty texts from a random girl from really far away. Another thing I found was him telling his friend that if I ask if my boyfriend drank or smoke to just tell me he didn’t (I have told my boyfriend I don’t want him drinking or smoking so he’s not supposed to). Either way I confronted him about everything and at first he tried to lie and said believe what you want. But then I showed him the proof and he admired everything else. He agreed that I could look at his stuff whenever I want and that I’m the only person he wants to be with and that he did those things before and those things happened many months ago. And he’s religious and even swore that if he ever broke up with me or cheated he swore himself to go to the devil. So a few months later in to New Year’s Day a random girl texts me saying that many months back her and him would sneak out in his car and do some things like kissing but not sex. And she said she could only give me proof he added her back on Snapchat and she was asking me if I knew his password and everything and if I could unblock her and stuff. So I tried that night but I was with him and he got super upset and was like why are you trusting that psycho girl she’s a girl who tried getting with me a bunch of times and she’s crazy. And he said I’m no longer allowed to have his passwords because it’s breaching his freedom and privacy as well as it’s just showing that no trust is being rebuilt. And that we cannot build our trust back if I’m consistently wanting to know what stuff is on there. So now in present day I still sometimes really just want to know who some of his new guy friends are or even just what goes on, on his stuff. Basically we still have our plan we wanted to get married this summer it’s just honestly how do I build trust again and how do I get over this hump of thinking he will cheat on me. Which all I know 100% is the most he has done is sexually text and apparently only sent 1 mirror pic with underwear on but the girls sent full stuff. And there is the chance that the random girl on New Years he did actual physical cheating with her but I don’t know because he denies it and nobody I know knows her. And she couldn’t remember exactly when it was like at least the month would help, all she said was it was a few months ago and that could have been when me and him broke up for 2 weeks. I don’t know at all. All I know is that me and him are perfect in every way together, besides this whole me kind of not fully trusting him. In our relationship it used to be I fully trusted him but he didn’t trust me even though I have never done anything and he just had jealously problems, now ever since I found out about the past stuff I don’t trust him fully but he trusts me fully and there’s no jealousy issues anymore. Please someone help I need some advice.
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Help idk what to do
Relationship Stress / by elizabetha101
Last post
 August 9th, 2021
...See more Me and my boyfriends 1 year is next week. I snapped at him yesterday and later on when we were going to be and we’re on the phone we were talking about how I snapped and he told me just recently he started loosing feelings and love for me but not fully yet. And he thinks we won’t work maybe because our family’s don’t line up and I’m very planned out with what I want to do in life where he has an idea but says what if it changes and then we can’t be together because he couldn’t do long distance or what if our lives just don’t line up. He said wait a day and let him process his emotions because this morning he ended up crying about that I got rid of everything of us on social media because I didn’t want to drag a relationship on that wouldn’t work. And he told me we could talk pretty soon tonight and I just don’t know how to even go about this at all or what to do.
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