Help idk what to do
Me and my boyfriends 1 year is next week. I snapped at him yesterday and later on when we were going to be and we’re on the phone we were talking about how I snapped and he told me just recently he started loosing feelings and love for me but not fully yet. And he thinks we won’t work maybe because our family’s don’t line up and I’m very planned out with what I want to do in life where he has an idea but says what if it changes and then we can’t be together because he couldn’t do long distance or what if our lives just don’t line up. He said wait a day and let him process his emotions because this morning he ended up crying about that I got rid of everything of us on social media because I didn’t want to drag a relationship on that wouldn’t work. And he told me we could talk pretty soon tonight and I just don’t know how to even go about this at all or what to do.
@elizabetha101 Hi!
I can understand that this situation was really confusing. I'm sure both of you have a lot to process. So how about taking a moment to give each other space and time for a breather and to think everything through? Miscommunication and misunderstanding always happen in a relationship with anyone and thta's totally understandable. Maybe after a while both of you have calmed down, ask him to sit down with you and talk it out about it? Please don't force him as it could make him feel uncomfortable. Besides, try to slow talk with him. I'm sure it's much more appreciated. If he's willing to talk with you, make sure both of you being honest and transparent about what both of you've been thinking and feeling. It could help both of you to build back trust and th secure realtionship you had.
I wish you the best. and ofc I'm here for you if you need more support :)
Thank you for your help. We ended up talking and it was pretty short. Basically he just kept saying he doesn’t know how he feels and I was just like look I’m not gonna just wait here forever to know if you love me or not and want to stay in this relationship. Also btw this is his 2nd time breaking up with me about the same things and last time after a week of me ignoring him completely even after he asked for his stuff back he came crawling back saying how much he needs me and how I’m the one and was crying and everything. But this time I think it’s more real because he actually got rid of me as a friend on insta and Xbox which he didn’t do last time. But ya I just don’t really get it because it really came out of nowhere but I’m already starting to feel better I’ve just been focusing on making new friends and I’m starting to accept that if he doesn’t love me then he doesn’t. What idk what to do is the possibility if he does what he did last time and comes back after a week or maybe even in 2 weeks because he has a court date for speeding and watch him be feeling all lonely and sad. Because he is also the type of person to come back to a relationship even if he left it because he can’t find anyone else I feel and he’s really lonely because last time he hung out with a girl 2 days after the breakup and kisses her but then told her he was not over his ex me still and came back to me 2 days later we had only been broken up for 4 days and we also hadn’t been able to talk a lot before that because right before we broke up he had been gone for a week in Utah. This time we had both been really busy for 3 days but we still texted each other updates throughout the days and slept on the phone together each night. But either way I’m just worrying if this is not permanent again idk what I’ll do if I would even take him back and it’s even worse that I’m being given possibly false hope that he will come back since he did last time.
He broke up with me last time right before our 6 months and now this time it’s right before our 1 year that was gonna be august 12.
@elizabetha101 hello :)
It makes sense now why this thing keep borthering you. Him being like that is really hard for you to handle. It is really clear that he can't handle in being in relationship with anyone. Do you have anything in mind that you would want to do next?
I'd suggest for you to confront him about this, like being honest and straightforward. Yes there are some people like he is so onw of the way i could suggest is confront him, be honest and straightforward make every words of yours clear, and show that you meant every word you say. Plus it's not reccomended for you to give or spare any pity look for him. If he keeps cornering you, it's ok for you to block him out from your circle and any social media.
Idk if this will work for you but i hope you'll have your own ways to deal with him. You have my support here :)
Well he already unadded me from everything on social media and I was thinking maybe to wait a week and see if he ends up texting me or I feel like texting him first and asking to talk again. And idk what to do abt his friend texting me. His friend texted me saying I’m sorry about what happened, not getting in your business, just trying to be nice. For now I ignored it but idk if I should say anything because if I did it could get back to my ex. Even if it was a simple thanks or all good.
@elizabetha101 that was hard. If i were you, i would have done the same thing. I'm sure you know what's the best for yourself and for your current situations. I wish things will turn out to be better for you and i really mean it :)
Thank you for being there💓
@elizabetha101 it's my pleasure. I hope talking and figuring this out has helped you better a bit :)
