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Relationship Stress / by emotionalSpruce7886
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 February 6th, 2023
...See more I am Catholic. I am trying to really hard to stay following my faith. In marriage, we believe in not using any contraceptives. I do not believe in that because I’m not ready for kids for like the first few years. But I have to follow my religion rules. I’m engaged right now. I have to follow NFP (natural family planning) by tracking my cycle & only being intimate during my infertile times. My fiancé knows about this & has known since the middle/end of august. He is having trouble accepting this & I understand why. But I have been tracking for months & I know my safe days. & he keeps telling me he can do it but then keeps asking me how sure I am that we won’t get pregnant. I keep reassuring him because I’m used to tracking now. Because he wants to marry me but is just overthinking. He told me he was fine with it a few weeks ago but then last night he kept telling me, “this is really hard to follow through with” & I told him I understood. We’ve done this once & I did not end up pregnant & I was trying to reassure him that we would be okay. He then said, “okay yeah but that’s only one time. What about the future times?” & I kept trying to reassure him but he kept saying it was too hard to follow through with and that he needed to know that nothing would happen. So I took it as him leaving me. I stopped trying to reassure him & said, “okay. If this is you telling me you can’t continue this, then I understand. I’m sorry this was complicated, I never wanted to be. I’ll let you go. Goodnight” & he said “I’m not trying to end things. I was just trying to talk to you. I was trying to talk through this with you & have you help me through it. Why would you say that”. But I DID try to help him through it. I tried to reassure him that we would be fine but he kept asking “what about this” or “what about that” & then said that it was too hard to follow through. So now he’s upset with me because I thought he was trying to leave me. I told him, “good morning, baby. I love you” he completely ignored me & said “good morning” because he’s still upset with me. What the heck?? Didn’t it seem like he was breaking up with me? And I don’t care to hear anyone’s opinions on my religious views.
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Relationship Stress / by emotionalSpruce7886
Last post
 December 28th, 2022
...See more I am engaged to someone and I used to like his brother 2 years ago but we were also really really good friends. Like best friends. But he had a girlfriend so I never acted on any feelings and stayed just friends, never flirted or anything like that. Then a year or so later, I met his brother and fell for him. We ended up dating & he proposed after a year of dating. I stayed talking to his brother and would tell him about anything really because we remained good friends. Then me and my fiancé ended up breaking up for a couple of hours and since I was still talking to his brother, I was just really wanted to have a conversation and get my mind off of me and my fiancés break up so I told his brother about how I used to like him a long time ago and we laughed about it. It wasn’t anything too serious. But then my fiancé and I got back together and this is eating me alive even though I know I didn’t cheat and didn’t do anything wrong. I just have really bad anxiety and when something like this happened in my other relationships, I felt the need to tell them about it even though it wasn’t needed and also wouldn’t help the relationship. I would feel the need to tell them everything because my brain wouldn’t allow me to NOT tell them. I had horrible anxiety attacks over small things that would happen like years ago and the thoughts would make me overthink and have anxiety attacks that I needed to tell them about what happened (it was never about me cheating, it wasn’t even that big) but it would always cause the relationship problems when I did it. I don’t know how to explain it. I know this time with my fiancé, it wouldn’t help anything if I told him but it’s still eating me alive. Would it be okay if I didn’t tell him because I never cheated or anything, it wasn’t anything bad. Sigh. Does anyone ever get like this or is it just me? This is why I stayed single for 4 years 🤦🏻‍♀️
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