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faithfulZebra8678
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I 💖 online therapy.

User name: I did not choose my user name, but I sure like zebras. And, tortoises, too.

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therapy and also journaling
Journals & Diaries / by faithfulZebra8678
Last post
 November 18th, 2025
...See more I've been trying to give more time towards getting therapy and also journaling. I find it's been helpful. Though it takes some tending. I am seeing that it's taking me some time to heal. And that it's challenging at times. And that's ok! I'm trying to remember not to hurry. To continue to listen to myself and others. It seems helpful for me to amp up self-care, now, too. Thanks to all those that have helped me. 7 Cups, wow!
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Apology to Long Ago Ex for Cheating
Relationship Stress / by faithfulZebra8678
Last post
 October 15th, 2025
...See more I'm glad I'm living a better life now, but an incident in my past still troubles me. I cheated on a boyfriend at the time. This was over a decade ago, actually many many years ago, was it over fifteen years ago? I told him right away when I got back to town, and we broke up with two weeks...or was it right away? I meant to call him and break up with him beforehand. It was so terrible of me. I feel so bad to this day, though I've moved on and seen other people. I married. I'm in a different place now. Sobriety, self-care awareness, therapy, etc. I had current and past major issues with myself, and didn't really respect my body or others so much. I didn't really understand relationships, and was rather depressed. I was depressed before and during that relationship. I definitely shouldn't have been messing around with anyone at the time, or at least, could have tried for better relationships. That was so rude of me. I should have taken the boyfriend/girlfriend thing much more seriously. I'm trying to write the ex-boyfriend I mentioned, the one I cheated on, an apology note, because I feel he is or was very mad and not looking to forgive me at all. Though, I've had a difficult time trying to track this person down. I've written quite a few letters on my past to different people for different reasons. Sometimes I don't write them, but sometimes I do. I think after I told him about the other guy, I brought up marriage and then said we probably shouldn't because I'm the one that brought it up and you're probably not even in to it. This was rude of me because sometimes the female brings it up, and it's ok. Also it was rude because I don't think I actually wanted marriage with him. We stopped hanging out soon after that. I wasn't ready to think about marriage in reality.  I was so depressed on a lot of issues. The relationship, like many of my relationships and past-times at that time, I think were just things that seemed awesome but were rude and not helpful to my journey, or would have made it difficult. I ended up getting through some major issues over the last years that makes me feel so much better. I think I've become a better person and maybe made a good influence on the world by getting through these problems. I'm thankful for all of my friends and acquaintances. I'm sorry my problems had to effect anyone else badly. I'm sorry I wasn't so good at relationships. Relationships can be difficult but beautiful.
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Quitting Cigarettes Encouragement
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by faithfulZebra8678
Last post
 July 26th
...See more If you are quitting cigarettes or thinking about quitting, I think you are awesome! Taking your time, believing in your self, finding resources, and things like that, may be helpful to you! I hope it goes well! Side note: I know some resources like nicotine replacements say to talk to your doctor first if you're pregnant or think you may be. To those people, I would say don't let that detour you, talk to a doctor or specialist and get the answers! Don't let the doctors or nurses detour you either! You deserve information! There are many quitting options. ...I would have liked that encouragement when I quit.
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Partner away sometimes
Relationship Stress / by faithfulZebra8678
Last post
 October 23rd, 2025
...See more My relationship partner doesn't really come home every night. I say I really would like to know if he's not going to be home. He says it's only that he is working most of the time, or hanging with his friends. I get quite upset and jealous, then feel maybe I'm wrong to be controlling. Like maybe I don't deserve a guy who comes home. Like maybe I'm being greedy to expect him home every night. I don't know what to think.  Maybe this is just another thing we disagree on.  I'm trying not to judge the path he needs, nor mine.  I think I'm going to try harder to help what has been driving us apart, and also journal. I'm sure not going to try too too hard because I'm not trying to make him into something he's not or doesn't want to be. This is difficult because I feel sometimes I don't get where the line is between being a good wife and being too controlling. Between trying to help him and realizing if there is a time to help me and maybe that I need to walk away other than being too controlling. I knew a lady once whose husband would leave for days on end and I was appalled but didn't want to judge. I wonder if, for me, this is like he is standing me up on a date every night for our time together I thought we had. Maybe my recent evaluation of our relationship and what I think of some of his relationships will maybe help everything, maybe not. Maybe this is a cry for help. Maybe a cry for help for him! Please don't use this reflection for personal advice without knowing everyone is different. I want it to go well for you and I don't want it to be my fault if it doesn't go well for you.  I'm sure I can't change my man, only myself and my environment. And I can sure try to be nice.
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Not needing recreational drugs to be cool
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by faithfulZebra8678
Last post
 March 10th
...See more "Acid is not that cool (u r tho)" I don't know how I thankfully moved on from these things. I think I realized I wanted more control over my life even though there was a lot I couldn't control. ...Also, they say to surround oneself with good things. I think when I really started trying to put things like honesty and carefulness in my life, there wasn't as much room for that other stuff that wasn't helping. I hope good things and progress for everyone's journey away from terrible addictions. So thankful to feel I have somewhere to post these things and reflect on my past.
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