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hp902
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first relationship! need help! what’s normal?
Relationship Stress / by hp902
Last post
 October 23rd, 2023
...See more after the honeymoon phase (about first 3 months) we started to fight a lot and it hasn’t stopped. we just hit our one year. is it normal to have so much conflict so soon? we’ve only had sex probably a dozen times if even in the year we’ve been together. and even during the sex i get bored. is it normal to happen so little and to not really love it even when you thought you would? is it normal to be arguing about money so soon and so young? how do you decide who pays for what? how do you know if it’s time to break up? or if you’re just experiencing a time of “the grass is always greener” or just normal turmoil. how do you know when it’s worth pushing through? i don’t want to lose this person. my partner is my best and only friend. i just feel like the pain i’m going through everyday to love them is and would be millions of times better than the pain of missing them everyday. i don’t think i’d survive that. what do i do? how do i know what’s best? how do i relieve the pain?
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is this normal?
Relationship Stress / by hp902
Last post
 September 24th, 2023
...See more sometimes i will go like 2 weeks where i’m so completely in love where i feel like i’d actually die if anything got in the way of me spending my future with my partner. but then following that i’ll have a whole week where i just wish i could be my own person again. where i feel like they’re getting in the way of my future. and i’ll feel so angry and like i just wish they would break up with me. i always get over it and the cycle restarts. but i don’t understand why i’m like this. is this something normal? is it normal to go through such extreme phases in love? we’ve been together for a year also so i feel like i should have this down by now. idk.
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self love in a relationship
Relationship Stress / by hp902
Last post
 February 15th, 2023
...See more is it possible to be successful on a journey to self love while also being in a new relationship? or do i need to break it off at least until i feel better about myself?
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take a break? or breakup?
Relationship Stress / by hp902
Last post
 February 19th, 2023
...See more my gf and i were together for 4 months and haven’t even been broken up for a full week yet (it was both of our’s first relationship). and i’ve spent everyday since breaking up with her feeling nothing but pain and regret. i only initiated the breakup bc i felt like i was having an identity crisis about graduating college and such and needed just a little space to be alone with my thoughts to figure everything out. she wasn’t happy with me suggesting space. it made her sad. she got sad a lot in those 4 months. and i felt like she spent a lot of that sadness acting like i was the one in charge of making her feel that way. i also think we both have fallen into patterns of codependency with each other. i’ve expressed both these concerns and again that just made her more sad and angry with me. i can recognize a lot of obsession like behavior and possible even love bombing from her bc of these situations. but, i still want to try to apologize and get back together even though i don’t really feel like these aspects of our relationship were healthy. i don’t know what to do. should i reach out? should i suggest working on all of this bc i love her? or do i just give up? is the wanting to go back or feeling like you two aren’t done with each other yet just part of breaking up? how is this supposed to go? how do i know what’s best? please help.
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