first relationship! need help! what’s normal?
after the honeymoon phase (about first 3 months) we started to fight a lot and it hasn’t stopped. we just hit our one year. is it normal to have so much conflict so soon?
we’ve only had sex probably a dozen times if even in the year we’ve been together. and even during the sex i get bored. is it normal to happen so little and to not really love it even when you thought you would?
is it normal to be arguing about money so soon and so young? how do you decide who pays for what?
how do you know if it’s time to break up? or if you’re just experiencing a time of “the grass is always greener” or just normal turmoil. how do you know when it’s worth pushing through?
i don’t want to lose this person. my partner is my best and only friend.
i just feel like the pain i’m going through everyday to love them is and would be millions of times better than the pain of missing them everyday. i don’t think i’d survive that.
what do i do? how do i know what’s best? how do i relieve the pain?
@hp902
It's not uncommon for couples to experience conflicts after the initial honeymoon phase, but the intensity and frequency of these conflicts can vary widely. What's important is how you and your partner handle these conflicts and whether you both are working toward resolution and growth.
The low frequency of sex and lack of enjoyment can be concerning, but it's also something that varies from person to person. Have a chat with your partner about your desires and what you both can do to make things more exciting. Arguing about money is also common, especially when you're young and possibly still figuring out financial responsibilities. And again, it's best to have a candid conversation about finances, create a budget, and decide how to split expenses.
As for when to break up or push through, that's a tough decision. If the relationship is causing you more pain than joy and you've tried addressing issues with your partner without resolution, it might be time to evaluate whether the relationship is healthy and fulfilling for both of you. You shouldn't feel like you're sacrificing your well-being for the sake of the relationship.
