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humorousTiger9410
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Disability Support / by humorousTiger9410
Last post
 June 23rd
...See more I have 2 health issues dat is chronic which is asthma and epilepsy. As a child my mom was there to see I was ok then many years later my late husband was overly protective after he learned of my illness and now I have no one. My daughter seems angry bout it and stated she doesnt Wanna anything to do wit it. Me on the other hand am really scared. I am 66 years old-female and as I get older my epilesy diagnoses has changed from where it once was and has caused me to experience some very frigntening moments and asthma only twice did I have a scare. I have said I dont know what is worse-having an asthma attack and not being able to breathe watching and feeling it as its happening wit no one there to help or go unconcious or literally be awake but not know how to get home or ask anyone for help. I had a situation where I couldnt even identify people from buildings. Docot stated although I at times Chat which isnt all the time do I Chat but he said I seize 24/7 and myworse ones are while I am sleep. Dat scares the heck out of me of somethin’ happening while I am alone and no one finding me til its too late. I tried getting into assisted living but was told I dont qualify cuz financially I dont get enough to afford it. I even tried going online to see if anyone was willing to have me live wit them. No many of them I didnt know but they too were in my age bracket wit health issues and I thought in a case like dat we couldve helped each other out but it didnt work so I am at a loss as to what to do.
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Unfortunate relationships wit my 2 adult children
Family & Caregivers / by humorousTiger9410
Last post
 June 23rd
...See more I have a 45 year old son and a 44 year ld daughter-I am 66 years old-female. I never ever intended situation to turn out as it did. Growing up at first as I phrase it I had a mother but once my step father entered the scene it was like I lost the mother I knew her to be. She never abused me but she became extremerly over protective and wanted me wit her at all times. I guess her knowing my step father was abusing me yet she never stood up for me which again I guess it was due to her own abuse she received by her dad growing up. However once my ex entered the picture she took every step to stand up on my behalf wit him Due to my own abuse although my daughter and I were close I unfortunatly became the abuser to my son which caused us to become estranged but lately many years later we are communicating again via text and calls yet he wont visit and I cant wit him as he wont give me his address. To move forward in 2007 my daughter moved in wit a woman her partner. The woman is very abusive and controlling wit pieces in her of being narcissi. She looks for everything to go her way. I visit every so often as I wanna see my daughter and granddaughter and to be frank I dont trust the woman around my daughter and granddaughter she has stolen and broken stuff of my daughters dat both she and I bought for her. My daughter no longer has love for her and going by what the girl said to me she too feels the same way yet when my daughter tried to leave twice she did her all to stop it from happening. She has criticized our entire family which has made my daughter and I argues wit her. She has gone out to people to lie and make my family look bad.  My son when I told him he asked why does my daughter crash wit her and I told him she is doing what many do when abused-I know I sure did it I kept going back til I got strangled and left. Here I almost lost my life befoah I went and left. My daughter is aware I worry bout her but she has argued wit me wit in the past year and told me several times she didnt Wanna me here in the home which hurts tremendously. It almost feels like she literally hates me which I did reveal to her how I felt. She use to invite me to go places wit her-not all the time but occasionally and now not only will she no longer invite me but wont even come in the room I am at to Chat, say hello or to check up on me as I have epilepsy. I love her deeply and literally would give up my life to save her from being harmed as I would my granddaughters( I have 3-2 are my sons)I never wanna know either of them got hurt. The girl made very serious accusations against my daughter and I and despite my daughter paying her part of the rent not only is the girl behind by 6 months but has called the police on my daughter a few times as well as one time she called on me and tried getting landlord to make me leave. The girl has revealed both to my daughter, granddaughter who is 10 years old as well as someone they know out in the town She revealed she doesnt Wanna me here which I tend to feel the girl has been pressuring my daughter to get rid of me and I know for fact she spoke to my granddaughter as I over heard the conversation. Both my daughter and I did call protective services but they never showed up but instead asked me to take charge to make sure my granddaughter was ok so I have been wit them now for a little over a year. My health isnt too great and has caused me not to see my doctors for awhile as I am unable to get to them but I fear the girl will do somethin’ serious to my daughter and grand and both my daughter and I tend to get this vibe the girl is doing what she can to take my granddaughter away from my daughter. She rarely allows my daughter to be the parent-she takes over and my daughter has many times complained how she lost my granddaughters earlier years due to not being able to exercise being the parent. I have suggested as well as my daughter suggested for the girl to get help as its seems obvious she has a mental illness combined wit health issues and occasionally drinks. She doesnt drink as often as she once did but when she does her behavior changes a lot yet it isnt a lot she drinks. The minute she puts it to her mouth she starts up. I would like for my daughter and I to find a place to live together but wit all thats happened she wants to live only wit her daughter. So between this situation and another situation I wrote in another thread/community its been a lot on my shoulders.
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Group Support / by humorousTiger9410
Last post
 June 23rd
...See more I Don’t Know if this is the correct group to place this in. Its set up different from what it was befoah so please bare wit me-just let me know if I placed this in the wrong section. This post is bout friendship and misunderstanding. I met this girl when we both were in 4th grade together-she is 65 and I am 66 years old. At one point in 6th grade we lost touch wit each other but I kept thinking of her and was worried. Eventually due to my daughters suggesting to look for her on ***. Luckily I found her and she traveled from Texas to New Yawk to visit me. Over the years I learned she was doing her best to recover from alcoholism and a dysfunctional family. She has been the one and only friend and true supporter I have had in my life. Tho she can be a bit too giving at times. She says I too have been supportive but mine more in listening than anything else. She is very aware I spent 20+ years in a day treatment program trying to recover from all the physical and mental abuse I received within the home by my ex and step father. She is also aware when things get tough I tend to break down and check out where I will ignore all phone calls. Wit her specifically the first time it happened was when I lost my partner for several years in 2020 from lung cancer. She forgave dat and continuously when somethin’ happens more so on my part she always apologizes for her part in it which I tell her theres no need only cuz I see it as her having done nuttin wrong. Moving on to years later-This past week to be exact. I was tellin’ her of what type of environment I'm use to living in mainly due to how I grew up rich vs poor neighbors. Although I am considered poor I grew up many years in a rich neighborhood as my step father in 1981 passed and my mom took over his apartment which rent was crazy low considering this being New York. At one point she stated how my family and I were of high caliber and dat she could tell it by talkin’ to my children but then she said F the rich. At dat point I would say I misunderstood what she meant and I took it offensively. Cuz by no means am I rich but she made no mention of being poor. I ended up checking out for 2 days and eventually Monday sent her a text. She ended up calling but I could tell she was highly angry and upset. Every time I tried explaining myself she saw it as my making excuses. She told me what she felt I gotta have done and at dat point set a boundary wit me which in some ways I see her side yet I feel she too gotta apologize. She claims when she made the comments to me dat she was joking but I didnt take it as such. Prior to hanging up she pretty much said for me to leave her alone but this girl she is my heart we have spoken a lot regarding our family dynamics our friendship and how we basically see each other as family. I dont wanna lose her out my life she is exceptionally important to me and so very special. I texted her on Saturday which she ignored my message. I wanted to call but due to how she came off Friday when I called I was scared. I feared the rejection and her coming down on me. I did holler her today which she did respond but still isnt ready to communicate over the phone. Ya know out of everyone I have known in my past I have never known anyone for as long as I do her. %6 years of friends I Don’t Know is too many years being friends, talkin’ on so many topics, supporting each other and to just throw all them years away I Don’t Know it doesnt make sense to me. I feel if there is true love between two people regardless of what the relationship is between both parties they gotta be willing to come together and do their best to get the situation resolved and move on. As I put in my message to her I mentioned how people do go through things and at times its the bad times dat we learn. All situations good and bad we always have somethin’ we can learn from it and in the end make our relationship stronger than what it was but to do it both parties need be on the same page. Due to my feelings for her I do feel broken and I wanna just give up. Not in as far as self harm but give up in sense of just sleeping, and not attempt to go through any type of relationships wit people not even to my own family. Growing up I was always made feel I didnt have a voice but wit her I did have a voice but after what happened I feel once again I lost the voice to chat and say what I think and feel. I wanna keep contacting her yet I dont want to pester her and make her any more angry and upset than she already is wit me. After what I have said here does anyone feel she too owes me an apology? I did mine like 4 times where she asked what was I apologizing for yet continued coming down on me. I am lost wit all of this.
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