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Sex is basically gone after wedding
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringDog5265
Last post
 July 25th
...See more We’ve met 3-and-something years ago. She’s older (43F), I’m younger (33M). She has a teenage daughter. We love each other, and everything is fine, yet one thing. We didn’t live together first years, and moved together only this February, couple months before the wedding. Some sexual disruptions start happening last December. Then, after moving together, the intimacy became even more occasional. And then she broke her leg 5 days before the wedding. Now she’s okay, but since then (mid May) we had sex like… 4 times? I feel myself a bit abandoned and undesirable. Dunno what to do. We’ve got some agreement on open relations, but I don’t want other women — I want my wife.
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I guess we are done
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringDog5265
Last post
 November 7th, 2021
...See more We've been in a relationship for more than four years now. Everything started perfectly, we moved together very quickly and the first years were great. My GF has had a mental diagnosis - Cyclothymic disorder. The second our winter, she fell into depression and together we tried to fight it for the last 3 years. I don’t want to write all the details, cause it’s a very complicated story, but what's going on now. Both of us are in therapy and taking antidepressants. I fell into depression as well after the injury. And it's like our eyes are open now. We are not as much the same as we used to think. Our visions on “how relationships should look like” are entirely different. We have a “difficult talks” almost every evening. She wants to get married - I don't see why. She wants kids - I don't. She wants me to think about her all the time - I can't, cause I've just found out that I've never been thinking about myself. More difficult this situation becomes if I say that without her, I'm homeless. I'm not in my hometown, I've got no flat here, we live in her home. And thanks to a pandemic, I've got almost no money to afford rent. The only hope here is that my work could provide me with “financial assistance for a hard life situation.” And I don't know what I want more - to save this relationship or end them up.
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I feel myself in a dead end
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by pioneeringDog5265
Last post
 October 26th, 2021
...See more I'm 29, and I used to identify myself as a straight for most of my life. However, now I understand that I've never been such. Since I was a teenager, I've been interested in men. It was hard to face this, yet there are too many things that evidence me being a bisexual, at least. My first sexual experience with a man happened when I was 22, and I mostly enjoyed it. However, I was grown up as a straight man, and it's hard for me to imagine how it's like - to be with the man regularly, so I've limited myself to some one-night-stands, continuing to call myself “straight.” You know, “it’s not something serious, it's just a curiosity; I'm just an open-minded person and see nothing special in having sex with men.” Now I've been in a heterosexual relationship for the last four years, and we are planning our wedding. But somewhere deep inside me, I feel it's wrong, and I won't be happy cause this is not what I want. I'm freaking afraid of coming out cause this is not what my family will understand and accept. My father, who is extremely valuable to me, is entirely homophobic. I fear that he will deny me. And I'm addicted to my current bride. We live in here flat cause I don't have my own, which is a physical addiction. Moreover, I don't want to hurt her now, when she is finally in therapy and fighting her depression. But I'm so freaking FOMO my “true” life, so I'm completely paralyzed.
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