Am I doing something wrong?
Hello, I’m brand new to using this thread thing so I guess I’ll just make this short and sweet. I just recently got promoted beginning of the year here at my job which I’ve been at for the last going on five years now and over all the time that I’ve learned to become a manager. I’ve also been learning quite a bit about the people that have surrounded me and that I thought were my family. Over the past three or four months now I’ve been faced with a lot of different situations, including an employee who I thought was working against me, but now we’re close somewhat and from what I could tell now The lady who was originally my boss, I’m having problems distinguishing as to whether or not I can Still trust her because I worked under her for the better part of three years. All of which she treated me like a daughter, but then recently I’ve been helping her with her workload and and I with hers. I would give her kudos, but strangely as it is over the course of what is now going on months of this transaction between us I have not once yet it’s gotten a kudos from her so I have that going for me. And To add insult to injury, A bunch of the people who I’ve worked with before it became a manager now treat me different and I really don’t understand why that is because it’s not like I changed. I still remain to be affectionate and loving, and I still give out hugs to people who need them and I always ask everybody. You know how their day is or if they ever need help or you know, I’m just there For these same people that I thought actually would respect me, Despite having gotten this Fair and square. And you would think people would want to talk to me and want to make conversation with me. But these days it feels like no matter what I do no one ever really sees me. There have even been times where I walk past a group of people and nobody notices me or even tries to acknowledge me by saying hi. I apologize if I’m ranting, but after everything, I’ve pretty much explained through this here chapter book that I’ve written, But I wanted to ask you guys or anybody who is willing to respond to this thread this same question: considering everything that I’ve pretty much explained am I wrong for feeling alone angry confused, isolated even? Or am I confused? Because I truly feel like I don’t belong where I am now and after Having gone through trauma within the last three years, am I also wrong for having resentment towards people who I trusted And should I trust them again or Can anyone offer me any guidance to this whatsoever? And yes, I have tried talking to the same people who are doing all this, And they say that I’m OK to my face, but then I find out later on that they’re talking behind my back from other people and some of these other people I don’t trust either. So again, I reiterate the same question am I really in the wrong for feeling like I feel right now and am I really doing something wrong?
@Phoenix7169
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. The same thing happened to me, I reached a level I was above my peers and was shocked how they turned on me. It seems everyone is comparing themselves to others and when someone is doing better than them they have such poor character the only thing they know is to tear others down. It’s been ever ending and I have found no other choice but finally learn to be my own best friend. I talk to myself supportively as I would my own child and have awakened to the realization I am the only one who has always been there and always will. Don’t let others bring you down. You deserve credit for advancing so please give yourself credit, maybe reward yourself with something to validate your efforts.
@Phoenix7169
Your work dynamic has changed. becoming the manager makes you their boss it is not the just co-workers relationship. Even if you have not really feel the change should anything go wrong and you have to make decisions it becomes clearer.
They will not treat you the same and in time you may need to see them differently as well. in anything when a person takes on more responsibility and leader role others who were great when you were on same level change... can be many things ... jealousy ..or just cautiousness as you already know their strengths and weakness