Career & Adult life
Hi. I'm a fresh graduate and I just received my degree at the end of July. I've been applying to several jobs and now I need to make the decision regarding where I should work. It's so hard for me to make a choice.
I just wanna ask that once entering adult life and having to depend on yourself entirely, how do you know that you're making the right choice or doing the right thing?
@chaseeee02
The well kept secret (lol) is no one knows.
If everyone had a crystal ball then no one would make a wrong move.... you need to find out sometimes the hard way. What feels right or is right for one person may not be for the next person.
Hi, I’m only 21 and still in college. With that being said, I moved out on my 18th birthday, went to school part time while working full time to build up savings. Not a cent from my parents (though my dad was my biggest supporter - just poor). I’m 21 now and live with my fiance, we are doing okay. I’ve done research, dabbled in different jobs and by this point I’ve been complimented on how full my resume is of different experiences, despite none of them really lining up with each other or "defining" what my career is going to be.
There is never a single right choice. There are countless right choices and countless wrong choices, with right and wrong being entirely subjective and based on your own values… The important thing is that if you have multiple job options and they’re all good enough to where you have trouble choosing just one, consider yourself very fortunate and realize that the stress of choice is an illusion. If each one would pay your bills and reasonably sustain you, then the choice is a pleasure choice and not one of survival.
Breathe, try to ditch some of the pressure before choosing. Your first job outside of college will absolutely not define your life or career, the same as jobs before or during college. The right choice will simply help you build skills to go to the next thing, which will help you build skills to the next thing, and so on until you reach the height of your career. Personally, the goal for early career jobs is to keep my career mobility. I do not want to hone in on one single career yet since I don’t have enough experience to even know which single position is right for me for the rest of my life. If you’re indecisive, chances are you feel the same. Be rich in experience, not in scrutiny over yourself or what those experiences ✨mean✨ Trust me, it’s a trap.
My personal decision making goes like this: Does this job teach me a new and valuable professional, technical or social skill? Can I carry this new skill into different fields or positions that I want eventually? Does the opportunity excite me RIGHT NOW? Do employees at this company have good things to say? And finally, can I reasonably and happily build some of the skills I’m missing out on in my personal time, while maintaining a good work-life balance?
If all options satisfy all of these requirements, you are just overflowing with passion and would probably be happiest simply with the highest paying option, until you can move onto the next thing once you’re at that job for a while. Eventually you’ll wake up and think, "I’ve seen news or heard about this other occupation/field for a while and it’s so exciting, I’m mostly qualified and just need X or Y to make the jump. Why am I not in this yet??" And then you’ll be rushing to switch jobs and you won’t even have to second guess it. The second guessing, from what I’ve seen, comes from the fact that a lot of these choices are more or less arbitrary, but the pressure of wanting the best in the long run tricks you into thinking, "No, there’s something I’m missing. There must be something important here that will make or break me in the long run. Some single perfect choice."