Having FOMO or something? Not sure what it is
I feel lonely a lot lately. 2 of my friends who used to be so close to me in college time have started replying late, not picking up calls and we don't meet often nowadays. I know everyone gets busy with jobs.
I get clingy whenever they call me because of all of this, and tend to not hang up because I feel distanced from them and I want them to talk to me more and spend time like before.
This is not the case with only them, I feel like this behaviour is coming into daily life with others also. Feels like this behaviour will irritate others and they will distance themselves from me more. I feel scared a lot. I get anxious when I'm alone, need someone all the time besides me.
@dynamicOrange5089
As I read your post i think of various situations where I tried very very hard to keep a friendship going even though as people we changed and the thing we had bonded over......... school or work are no longer the situation.
it is hard if you have few friends to let go and you may text or call more often or if they call..... you try to extend the interaction........this often causes issues where they want to avoid the conversations even more. I am not sure if this has a name but many people do this.... some do not see that sometimes friendship run their course and slowly fade away.
I have never related to something more!! I have 2 super close friends and that’s all but recently they have been a bit more quite and distant but of life I guess but when they are around I feel that I get super clingy and then later get worried they are going to get annoyed and/or leave. I also very much relate to the feeling of being super anxious when I’m alone and that I need someone around me all the time!! I’m always here if you want to talk or just want a friend!!
Thank you so much Daw. it means a lottt to me!
It's 3 am rn I wasn't able to sleep.
Nowadays I started talking to my mom. I noticed it makes me feel a little calm but can't do that right now.
You saying you are here makes me so calm. Grateful!
Also, I'll be here too! You don't realise you made my day <3
Oh wow that’s late! I’m glad I could help make your day!
it’s good that you at least have your mom to go and talk to! I’m sure that definitely helps a bit:) it’s only 6:30pn for me so I can’t definitely listen if you need that:)
for myself I’ve just started to just find online platforms like this one to talk to others, especially because my parents don’t really make it easy for me to talk to them
Hello, I’m sorry that you you get anxious when you’re alone
I understand. I maybe only talk to one friend that I met in college, and we haven’t talked in a long. But your post just reminded me to message her, so thank you.
but this isn’t about me. Your feelings are valid and it’s understandable that you wouldn’t want to hang up the phone. 💖
I’m sorry I’m not sure how to edit posts. I just wanted to add that I have quite a few friends , not college related really, who and always talk or they don’t have the energy to or they don’t want to respond right away and we have this unspoken understanding, but a few of my friends have distanced themselves to the point where I think they ghosted me
so all of this is to say that I understand ( I’m sorry I made this about me twice )