i never learned how to make friends.
i'm a 21 year old college student, and i've had social anxiety for my entire life. i deal with that by isolating myself from others, and unfortunately that means i never learned how to make friends. i try to be okay with it and tell myself that i don't need others to make me happy, but that is not true. loneliness is so hard to deal with. i have one friend irl, (who initiated our friendship) but she is always busy, and she already has a best friend.
i'm studying english and have a love for books. i also really enjoy cooking/baking, kpop girl groups, cozy video games, musicals, and *** reality tv. i tend to be more comfortable talking to other women (or non-men in general) due to past experiences. if anyone else relates, i would love to try to become friends :)
@lavenderMoon987 Listeners here at 7 Cups provide a welcoming environment to make you feel like you are being heard by a friend. However, due to the required anonymity that we have with our Members the concept of finding an identifiable friend here is not possible. That being said, I believe that 7 Cups is an excellent place to work through your social anxiety in a safe place and set yourself up with the skills for a lifetime of beautiful friendships!
I’m the exact same way, it’s so hard trying to make friends in your 20’s. You can talk to me on here
Edited Sept 20, 2023
@arkofconversation im glad im not alone in feeling this way. im not comfortable giving out any other ways to contact me, but talking on here would be nice :)
@lavenderMoon987
Reaching out like you did here is a great first second and third step :)
Hi I'm Day on 7cups, I am a forum supporter who enjoys chatting with so many people and then at time I just go to my forum called "Count to one million" I usually go there to help when I am having racing thoughts. Lets be friends!
Blessings, Day
@juliak1968 nice to meet you, day! i'll have to check out your forum :)
@lavenderMoon987
Hi again, I hope you're having a great time on 7cups!~ Have you tried to chat with any listeners yet? I had a nice day today :-)
Thank you! Blessings, Day
@juliak1968 hello! i have not tried to communicate directly with a listener yet, but i have been trying some of the group chats and been enjoying those! i'm glad you had a good day. mine was pretty good too :)
@lavenderMoon987
I'm happy you reached out to make new friends, it is quite a lucky thing when you make a true friend who has your back in thick and thin, I have one of those and a couple other pretty close friends, but no as many as I'd like. With friendship come a desire to help the other person because they want to also help you. Friends are happy when the other is doing well :-) I don't trust people easily but on 7cups its easier to practice making friends because of the anonymity, so it take the pressure off. I can get online without brushing my hair and nobody knows lol
If you look for a listener, try to find @jennysunrise8 she is a great listener who has helped me a lot, if you do ever get to say hi to her, let her know that Day recommended her.
Keep on smiling because it attracts people :-)
Blessings, Day
@juliak1968 yes the not brushing your hair part is nice lol it definitely takes some pressure off
thanks for the listener recommendation, i will try when i am ready!
hope you are having a good day :)
Hi, I am having the same struggles as well. I made friends when people "adopted" me in their friend groups. I love reading books, too. I'd like to be friends and talk about books if it is okay with you too. Take care 🤗🤗
@blueLemon5223 of course it's okay with me, feel free to message me any time! have you read anything good lately? i've been in a bit of a reading slump, so i desperately need some recs
Hey! I read "The Seven Husbands Of Evelyn Hugo" and absolutely fell in love with it! And I am going through Asimov's "Foundation", recommending them also!
@blueLemon5223 evelyn hugo has been on my tbr forever, maybe this is my sign to go get it! thanks for the recs!
@lavenderMoon987
I have the exact same problem 😭 and I'm also a 21 year old girl studying at uni and love all those things too! so I would love to be friends :3
@apobangpo yayyy, we'll have plenty to talk about then! message me anytime :)
same here. You can message me😊
@lavenderMoon987 me neither
@BestPalOutThere maybe we can help each other then :)
@lavenderMoon987
I'm a 20 y.o. college student and I've been in school for 2 weeks and I have yet to make a friend other than my roommates. With social anxiety, it can be difficult to open yourself up, especially when you do it multiple times and people keep ghosting you, triggering self-doubt. It sucks, but college is supposedly the place where you'll find your friends for life (I don't know about that yet tbh)
Oh! I also study English and love K-pop and musicals!!!
@Nix422 yeah, i hope i still have opportunities to make my friends for life after college bc i only have one year left... yikes
what kpop groups do you listen to ??? and musicals?
@lavenderMoon987
My ult group is Stray Kids, but I listen to a wide variety, from Day6 to Ateez to Twice to IU. I found out my college is doing Urinetown in the spring semester, so that will be the musical I most listen to in the upcoming months. I also enjoy Hamilton, DEH, Wicked, Phantom, Once on This Island, Aladdin, Seussical, a wide variety really. :))
@Nix422 i've heard a lot of good things about stray kids, but i've never really listened to them. the only boy group i've gotten into is xdinary heroes. any stray kids songs i should listen to? my ult group is dreamcatcher, but i also really love (g)i-dle, loona (so glad they're all free from bbc!), twice, le sserafim, etc.
i've also never listened to urinetown, what's it about? i love a lot of the other ones you mentioned though! lately, my favorite musicals have been starkid, are you familiar with them?
@lavenderMoon987
Xdinary Heroes did a cover of Stray Kids' "Hellevator", so I recommend that to start out (make sure it's ot8 tho!)
Urinetown is a satire on having to pay to use the bathroom (especially in Europe)
I've never heard of starkid...
@Nix422 okay, adding hellevator to my list of songs to check out!
starkid is a theater company that posts all their musicals for free on youtube. they are very chaotic in the best way possible. my favorite musical of theirs is firebringer, but i also highly recommend their hatchetfield series (starting with the guy who didn't like musicals) !!
Hi there👋🏻. If you want we can be friends, I am not comfortable talking in other platforms so if you want we can listen to each other in this platform
@aquamarine2000 i feel the same way about other platforms, so that sounds great!
😊✨✨✨. How are you today? Hope you are having a wonderful day
@aquamarine2000 i'm okay. i am currently trying to fix my sleep schedule because school starts soon for me and i am basically nocturnal at this point lol
how are you ??
I am also kinda doing fine, I guess. Have to study and complete some of my notes. There are some things I need to stop thinking too much and keep myself sane😂.
Glad to hear you are working on your sleep schedule, it's amazing. Mines are terrible, but I am trying to fix it, a little by little 🤏🏻
@aquamarine2000 we've got this! we will get sleep lol
😂yes we will💪🏻
OMG! Why do you sound like a future version of me? I am 14 years old, I have social anxiety, and I never went out to play with other kids, no matter how much my parents forced me to. I don't have any friends, but not really, it's like a one-sided friendship, She has many people she talks to, and I am one of them.
Would say some same , interests too, I like learning new languages, video games, cooking, music, and K-pop.
And I don't like talking to anyone in irl. Specially boys.... Not any specific reason.
@lavenderMoon987
I also barely make friends, except online. Infact,as of now,I have no friends at all offline. Just chat pals. Tho I'm slightly comfortable without any friends,but I still feel it especially when am alone, lonely and déprëssêd. So I understand clearly how you feel and it feels.
