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Trying to express myself..

User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e April 12th, 2022

This is the first time I'm writing here in a more kinda public place, I'm usually talking with other listeners in private. It's not easy to open up.. being an introvert and having social anxiety makes me a bit closed and can't fully express my feelings. I tried to talk with others but it didn't work out the way I hoped.. they would usually tell me I should seek help from a professional, or it's a different time zone and we can't talk, or they would reply with words like (ok, mmm, I understand) .. I of course can't force anyone to listen to me and pretend to care, but all I want is some empathy, some kind words that would make me feel slightly better.. if you can't really say those words then why would you give me hope that you are.. it's really making me even more sad than when we first start chatting.. yes we all have problems and issues and it's not easy to live with these things but can't we just at least make it easier for each other and support each other.. I don't mean to hurt or upset anyone, but I thought about writing this and I'm not even sure that anyone would see it..

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User Profile: Songstress
Songstress April 15th, 2022

I see. I hear. I understand. Talk all you need to. Sometimes it just takes a little while to get responses.

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User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e OP April 18th, 2022

❤️

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User Profile: affectionateCat9553
affectionateCat9553 April 16th, 2022

@Elena22e

You can talk to me if you like. I may not always be available immediately but I will respond to your messages. I have been on here for a month or so. I really like responding in communities like this. It helps me cope with what I am feeling. I haven't been able to talk with a listener. I'm not sure why. It might be due to the time zones, which sounds like you have experienced. Usual when I need someone to talk to it is late like 10pm or early like past midnight. There are lots of articles on here and different paths you can take that will help you deal with what you are going thru. Right now I'm doing the Mindfulness path. It is very helpful. I also journal. I've been journaling since I was a teen. Thats why I like the communities because its like journaling in a way.



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User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e OP April 18th, 2022

I'll try mindfulness path.. it could help


I also journal but it's not really the same as talking to someone about it, yet you can't find that person..


Thank you for responding ❤️

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User Profile: hardworkingLychee1583
hardworkingLychee1583 April 16th, 2022

Hi.....really sorry you hurt and upset. I don't think it's always helpful when people say seek out professional help as that's not always easy and it takes time. Also it's quite offending isn't it when you reach out to people and they don't understand even after you have tried to explain. At least you tried......you did your bit! Or that they say seek a professional....that's not a nice thing to say. Hey don't be sad......I get anxiety too and people don't understand me. Infact lots of people have anxiety it's more common than you think. Although I bet you are a nice person and you have lots of good qualities. I'm glad you took the time on here to say how you feel!


It also makes me feel less alone knowing you have anxiety too. I'm called Hardworker.....7 cups picked this name! I've tried to change it but it's not happening at the moment lol. Hope you are feeling a bit better? Knowing you are not alone.....

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User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e OP April 18th, 2022

Maybe I can find some comfort here, but in reality people aren't going easy or understanding with me and it's really hard..


Thank you for responding ❤️

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User Profile: BlueDophin90
BlueDophin90 April 16th, 2022
@Elena22e
Hi Elena. I found your post when exploring the forum in my member account. I'm facing a similar issue with you. It's very hard for me to open up, and I, too, talked to listeners who couldn't truly understand what I was talking about.

Someone was even being judgmental and making it even harder for me to open up. And the talk made me feel more troubled than before I had one. I haven't found someone with whom I can comfortably talk about what I come here to talk about. So, I understand your struggle. I also had social anxiety almost my whole life. Fortunately, I got it more under control now.

I can't promise you anything. But I will always try to listen to everything you have to say, being respectful, understanding, and empathetic. I switch to my listener account in case you want to talk to me. Feel free to leave me a message when I'm not online. I'll get back to you once I am.
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User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e OP April 18th, 2022

Thank you for responding ❤️


It's not easy to open up only to get more upset that people don't understand you or why feel like that.. and sometimes they make you feel guilty because of the way you feel.. not everyone can be supportive..

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User Profile: BlueDophin90
BlueDophin90 April 22nd, 2022
@Elena@Elena22e

Sure, I understand. I've been there too. Sometimes it can take a while to find someone you can vibe with who truly understands you and can provide the support you need. I hope you will soon find the person with whom it feels easier to open up, make you feel less alone in your feeling, and give you the support you need.

Anytime you want to try to talk to me, please feel free to send me a message. I would be happy to be there for you. I may not always be online, but I'll get back to you when I am. And if you feel like it, we can also set a schedule to talk. No pressure. You're free to do what feels most comfortable for you.

You're a good person. Even during your struggle, you're still thoughtful toward others. I sincerely hope you get what you come here to find.
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User Profile: TheBroiler625
TheBroiler625 April 17th, 2022

I hear you... I lurked a bit on these pages but found the posts and responses more engaging than some of the chats.


So, keep posting... While the responses may not be immediate - they will be thoughtful and provide some diverse advice and experiences.


Hang in there... You are seen and heard here. 🙂

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User Profile: Elena22e
Elena22e OP April 18th, 2022

Thank you for responding ❤️


I don't always feel heard or seen

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User Profile: listeningmatters
listeningmatters April 20th, 2022

@Elena22e

I feel you. I also don't feel quite comfortable sharing my feeling. Usually it takes time for me to observe and decide when and to whom I would open up. Take your time here, maybe then you will find someone who can relate and connect to you, then it will be a healing journey for you. Take care, dear.