Bad married life

@Agni05 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Know your worth, trust your instincts, and let your confidence shine through.

Self-love is not selfish; it is necessary for your well-being.

Been down this road. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.

I really question what is the point of love. It can't be that great if it causes this much pain

Yeah...mine picks at me and is snappy every other day. I can't do anything right, and he acts like he doesn't want me to talk to him. Even when he does something " nice" such as cook dinner, he picks at me about something else. Very secretive, won't share his finances and just is irritable 50% of the time. I try to give good energy whenever I see him after his long days, and he meets with nitpicking or irritability. Its messed up and has me down.

Sorry you are going through this! I don't have a bad marriage like that, but sometimes it's challenging and it makes me anxious! My husband can be selfish!

@Agni05

I understand. We are in this together. 

Same here. I feel like i *** up my life after marriage and even worse after have my first child recently.

Yeah… I’d need more details than that if you really want to get into it, but me too.

Hard marriages are really… sucky. Idk how else to word it… like it drains you.

Wasn’t sure how to edit… sorry. Just wanted to add that if it counts for anything I’m 35 M.

It seemed like a lot of responses to this were ladies.

@Agni05

Been there.  Stayed married for 8 years trying to make it work, but it just got worse every year.  I didn't recognize it for the abusive situation it was.  (Not saying yours is abusive, but just know sometimes we don't recognize an unhealthy situation until we're out of it.)  So much happier now that I left that situation.