Pressured
Who are here are more pressured because of New Year? Getting old but not yet married, no children 😅
I'm more pressured with my friends asking that I should be married and they are suggesting this guy or those guy even not my type haha. I just want it to be my choice not through friends2x.
Online also is my option but I'm ashame to look haha and a fraid if it won't work.
Thank you in advance for your advices haha.
@Uncertain20 thisbpressure is very... Pressuring 😅
All fine going online as meeting acctual people seems harder and harder by the day. I met my wife online when Internet wasn't even a thing around here, so, I guess when you find a person that wanna be with you and you wanna be together, it works no matter what because love is an every day effort on both sides.
Take your time and enjoy the view. 👋🏻
wow Thanks, I can feel there's hope and I'm inspired haha
@Uncertain20
I am also single at 38 male so maybe it's better I woun't give advice on that haha. Altough there is no pressure from close ones it's still ***, so I can relate🙂
Haha are you 1987 too? So our year are like being cursed ahaha. Single forever
Nah 1986, may- born🤣
You'll be 39 soon in May, good luck. Where you from?
Where I am from, it is a bit more complicated. I am 30 and been pressured by family and relatives to get married to someone they have selected for me. And It has not been easy to stand my ground to wait and date and eventually marry someone i love and am attracted to. Infact many of my friends are going through the same intense pressure as me, specially women. Not having a partner, children might be lonely but being stuck with a wrong one is even more disastrous.
Oh your culture is more pressuring too, fixed marriage. Sad, like you are not allowed to choose 😢 Now, I'm feeling guilty coz I have the power to choose or refuse than you. But Hopefully you can find your love match soon.
@Uncertain20 Aww don't feel guilty. We all have to fight our own battles. We gotta fight for this love. 😄 And i am sure you too are gonna find what you are looking for. Someone who loves you for who you are.Wishes for the new year 😇
Hope so but I guess hebis is not yet born hahaha. Hope for the best this 2025 to us 😎🎉
@Uncertain20
I am going through the same thing and yes it's tough.
We're all in this together
I totally get how this can be overwhelming 🤎—no one wants their biggest life decisions dictated by others just because 'it’s time' 😤.
I don’t think your friends have bad intentions 😊; they’re probably showing care in their own way. But at the end of the day, it’s still your choice 💪✨.
That said, purely from a statistical perspective 📊, finding 'the right person' does get tougher in your late 30s, especially if you have high standards 🤷♀️. It’s not impossible, but options tend to narrow as time goes on, especially for women 💭.
Taking your time is fine ⏳, but by 'taking your time,' I mean being intentional—months, not years ⏱️. The longer you wait without action, the harder it might get to find what you truly want 🔍.
If you want, I can help you think through this logically 🤔 and come up with a smart plan that works for you! 🧠✔️
Hahaha, yeah you're right. What's the plan?
It’s simple😊 I can ask you a set of questions to figure out how likely you are to find the kind of partner you want, based on both what you’re looking for and what men typically prefer.
But please be aware of a couple of things:
1st is comfort. Some of the questions might touch on personal topics (like income or physical preferences, or physical attributes like weight or height, or attractiveness). If you’re not comfortable with certain questions, please let me know.
2nd is realism. This isn’t a very accurate or a prediction of your future, but just a logical way to think about your chances based on statistics
If you want, we can PM—it’s totally up to you😊
If you want, we can PM or I can ask them here—it’s totally up to you!
Take your time, marriage isn’t a race. Let your friends know how you feel
@Uncertain20
I've so much more to do I've not had much of an extended social life. Just the bare essentials. The ones who have sooooo many questions and definitive input I've not had much time with. The years only just began!!!!
I focus on my most meaningful friendships and family ties I'm sure they will occasionally have an input here and there but usually if / when I request their opinions.
@Uncertain20 in my experience it's when you aren't looking that you seem to find the one you can't get rid of lol
Hahaha, really, how for example?
