Confused all over again
So my ex I was with 8 years and have 3 kids with confused me. We didn’t work out cuz a lot of my issues. We seperate and I tried to work on us but again I put the fire dept before her . We stopped talking and a few months later got her to talk to me and we went out in a date to try over again. Date went well but what I didn’t know was tht she was already talking to someone else also. She started saying she was confused and didn’t know who she wanted to be with. I wasn’t gonna be the other guy so I ended it again. Talked to her about a month ago and told her I need her to tell me we r never gonna get back together so I could move on. All she said was she can’t tell me that cuz she doesn’t know what is gonna happen in the future. So here I am again thinking about us. I know she is with someone but if there was a chance we could work I would go for it to be back with my family together again.
She is not available right now, and no one can know if she will be in the future, as she said. She cannot give you certainties, nothing is ever certain in life, and we have to make choices. It is up to you to decide whether to wait or move on. Frankly, I recommend the latter more. Don't get stuck in a situation of uncertainty, you could waste time. Go on, start over, learn again to live without her. In the future, if you find each other again, you will know what is best to do, but until that moment it is right for everyone to make their own life. I understand this is all tough, consider getting help from a professional if you think you need it, or remember that we listeners are always here. All the best.
@Lifeonmars787 yeah I do need to just move on. I thought I already had. Been 3 years since we been together and was in a relationship for a year tht was great and only reason we ended tht was she had to move to Michigan and I need to stay here for my kids. I wouldn’t have asked my ex if she thought we ever get back together but a therapist I was talking to said I needed closure on tht so I asked her tht. All tht did was get me all confused lol. Thts life Need to just try and enjoy the here and now. I have a lot of other issues with panic and anxiety and working on all tht now. Also looking for another therapist 😂. I was fine before I asked her tht
