How to copeup with spouse infidelity

Hi there. Hope you're doing OK. I'm sorry you're going through this painful experience. I've been there and know how hard it is. My husband was unfaithful and had an affair for 5 years and when I found out I had to forgive him for the kids. Unfortunately, he did if again after 2 years and eventually we got divorced. I had to live for two years struggling to forgive him and learn to trust him again. It's hard to cope with indefinitely if it was in the past. I can't even imagine what it's like if it's still going on. Can't you confron him and get him to open up about his reasons and intentions regarding this affair. I think you at least need to know if it's serious or just a fling. He needs to show remorse and work to earn back your trust and be willing to work on your marriage. As hard as it is, I think the only chance for your marriage to survive this affair is for you to communicate and work together to get past this. You can do it alone.

I hope you can find peace of mind soon. Take Care.

I'm in this boat as we speak. It was my wife that cheated on me. It was a one time thing and that's it, I said I forgave her and I want to work on it. We have 2 daughters (8 & 10) and I knew I had to try for them. But it is so hard to forget sometimes. It's been a little over a year and I think weay be over now. What I'm trying to say is, you have to be true to yourself. I honestly did forgive her, but forgetting can be a whole other story. And if you let that sit with you, you turn out like me a bitter a__whole who just makes everything worse.