I don't know what to do
I just don't know what to do anymore, my marriage is on the brink of collapse, my life is over. And it's all my fault, I don't even know how I do it but I seem to turn a simple argument into a blow out fight that ends with my wife crying and me feeling so bad I turn to my old friend "cutting myself" to stop the pain I'm feeling. I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this. I love her so much but I cause her so much pain. God I hate myself.
@carpenter83
Hello,
I wonder if you've tried writing a letter to your wife then pair it with her favorite thing to have. Your letter can include what you appreciate about her in the beginning and remind her of your point in marrying her.
Next, you should ask her what she would like to see happening in the marriage. This way you'd remind her that you are still interested in what's on her heart. Next, you should write sentences that start off with compliments then use words like "however" and "although" to create opportunities for you to let her know what you would like to see.
Lastly, you should remind her how strongly you still love her and is still interested in her. I hope this helps.