Quit Job?
I am 40 years old. I have only worked since about 2014, but I have risen to a position that is relatively high up and very well paying considering my masters is in English education. I manage a team whose job I cannot do. I feel like an imposter. Still I know enough to know enough to know their skills are lacking for their fields. I am stressed in trying to turn around this team. I have two small kids. I feel like I miss out on the opportunity to enjoy them and run our house. I feel that I will be more happy if I quit. I also feel my kids will be more happy. I feel I can take a lot of burdens off of my husband if I quit BUT he would have the stress of earning our living. He makes a better living than me now with a less demanding job. Please share thoughts.
@TryingToBeBetter78
Deciding whether to quit our job or not is often very difficult and I understand how this would feel very stressful for you… Reading your post I noticed that the very first thing you mention about your job is that it makes you feel like an imposter. It makes me wonder if above anything else this is what is driving you unconsciously towards the decision of quitting: this sense that you do not deserve such a high position. What do you think? Can it be related to a general low self-esteem?
On a more practical side, it may perhaps help you thinking of an imaginary friend with a similar disposition to you and trying to think of how you would approach a conversation with them. Which type of questions would you ask? Could you list all pros and cons of quitting, and reflect on which needs would result being met or not?
@admaiorasemper. Thank you for your considerate reply. I think a lot of my wanting to quit is feeling alone in the role.
@TryingToBeBetter78
This is a great step towards understanding yourself :)
Do you know what makes you feel alone exactly? Would you like to feel more supported by your superiors for instance? Or would you like to have a different relationship with the people in your team? Or what else?
@admaiorasemper
i am really not sure. Some of it is that the previous leadership was not good at managing the teams performance and addressing individuals skill deficits. I am still doing a lot of my old job and this job.
@TryingToBeBetter78
This sounds very stressful indeed. Would it be possible to delegate part of it to someone else? Especially your old job. Or even suggest that they hire someone new if the staff is not big enough? It is really not fair on you.
@admaiorasemper. I am trying to negotiate that right now.
@TryingToBeBetter78
This is good news, well done! I really hope there is going to be some positive change.
@TryingToBeBetter78
Hi there, I was wondering how you are doing and how things went with your job? Hope you are ok!
@TryingToBeBetter78
Are you possibly struggling with imposter syndrome?
Money can buy just about everthing,except TIME.IN my opinion,TIME is the most important thing we have.What do most people,who are at the end of their lives wish they had more of?You guessed it,TIME,."I wish I would have spent more time with my family,my children"have you ever heard that?You have a chance to not be one of these people,not to mention the positive impact it will have on your children,which I assume are the most important in your life.Again, this is just my opinion,something to think about.Sometimes we make decisions more difficult than they should be.
This is a typical case. Everyone had similar thoughts after 35 years. Based on the experience of many of my friends, I can say that getting fired does not bring as much relief as you expect. Sometimes people just don't know what to do at home. I would suggest finding a remote job now. See what the tcommas.com service offers. Such vacancies are in demand now. You can look for a vacancy for a project manager if you feel strong and confident, or find something easier if you need more time.