Some advice, please
Hello. I would like to share my case with so that I could get proper help and advice. I currently work in the company where my colleague stares at me all the time during the meetings, but does not speak to me and ignore me when we are together with other colleagues.
He is not a talkative man (40+), and even greets some specific people, not everyone. I am almost 8 months in the company and he used to irritate me due to his approach such as selecting peop to greet and speak, whereas ignoring others.
Once, in last fall we were in the field trip together and he demonstrated himself as a good team leader. He impressed me when he saw me off till the taxi.
However, the next day at the office when he entered our office he ignored me and spoke to other female colleagues. I thought after this joint trip he will not ignore me as a person at least. He stares at me all the time during the meetings and usually rub his crotch while watching me right in the meetings. As I am sensitive towards him I can notice his every action.
He is in a committed relationship, he has a girlftiend in another country. But he does not stop watching me that makes me unsettled, confused, I can even forget my reflections I want to express and I guess I love him now. Even though, I also started to ignore him and do not greet him.
Could you please advise me why he is acting so? What is his purpose?
Many thanks.
Hey
Hope this message finds you well.
I don't have any psychological theories in my mind right now, so I'd refrain from saying those at this moment.
The person is all about loving from a distance. But, he's being very saturnian, aka very responsible, or like stoic-wise, but negligent of his own situation. He is being a leador you say, but not when alone or like that, rather in a meeting, which is all like saturnian paradigm.
He has weird defense mechanisms, it seems, which is why he evades like this.
I'm currently learning about defense mechanisms myself. Slowly though.
However, I'd like to suggest you something, which is purely based on lifeomancy or astrology.
Try dropping something on the floor, as soon as you encounter him around you, or in the meetings.
Or, try having a cup, a bag or some sort of container with you, maybe like a cup in a meeting! I think, this should stir the situation for you. That's 1.
The other is about sounds and music. As soon as there's enough 'background score', it feels like he becomes okay with expressing his identity or desires or acts out in his thoughts. This background score, this presence of a lot of people, or noise or music or sound is a signature here.
It's almost like a snake charmer infront of an enchanted snake paradigm. So, that's number 2. Try solving your problem by this, if you can relate and find more signs, as you already are making strings of them.
Take care.