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User Profile: TheDude0156
TheDude0156 June 19th, 2021

How does therapy help? I have been through 6 different therapists and I don't see how it helps.

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User Profile: RarelyCharlie
RarelyCharlie June 19th, 2021

@TheDude0156 The therapists I know (in real life, not here at 7 Cups) tell me that therapy works by applying specialist knowledge about how the mind works. This is a complex combination of knowledge and skill that not many therapists are good at.

So, unfortunately, it is very possible to go through six different therapists without finding one who really knows what they are doing.

There are several different approaches to therapy, such as cognitive, person-centred, psychodynamic, and so on, which work in different ways. There has been some research that shows the skill of the therapist is more important than the approach they happen to use.

It may be that you are more likely to find a good therapist who can really help if you look for one who has a good reputation among doctors, or one who is able to charge high prices, or one who has a long waiting list, or one who has several decades of experience, or one who is a specialist in a particular type of therapy, or some combination of those things.

Charlie

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User Profile: TheDude0156
TheDude0156 OP June 19th, 2021

I must have had only one type then. All we did was talk. That did not help me at all.

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User Profile: peacefulIris56
peacefulIris56 June 19th, 2021

@TheDude0156 I see. You felt like that you weren't helped because you did not find the session beneficial to you.

User Profile: RarelyCharlie
RarelyCharlie June 19th, 2021

@TheDude0156 Yes, sometimes when they don't know what to do they just run out the clock with talk, and of course that doesn't help you at all.

Charlie

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User Profile: peacefulIris56
peacefulIris56 June 19th, 2021

@RarelyCharlie Yes. You are right that there are different therapy approaches. And not every therapist will be skilled in each and everyone of them. Different individuals or situations respond to different approaches. A lot of the times, there is a science behind it. It is definitely a skill as well. And I see communication as a skill and an art. Thank you for sharing this.

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User Profile: RarelyCharlie
RarelyCharlie June 19th, 2021

@peacefulIris56 It's the ones who are skilled in none of the approaches who are the problem Winking

Charlie

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User Profile: peacefulIris56
peacefulIris56 June 19th, 2021

@RarelyCharlie Ok. I see. Thank you for your input.

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User Profile: TheDude0156
TheDude0156 OP June 19th, 2021

I would be willing to try again if I knew it would help. Sitting and talking about things is not help to me. I need to see results.

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User Profile: RarelyCharlie
RarelyCharlie June 20th, 2021

@TheDude0156 Based mainly on information I've read, there seem to be some types of therapy that tend to get results very quickly, such as hypnotherapy and solution focused therapy. Maybe EMDR should be included.

I wonder whether any of your six therapists were highly skilled and experienced in any of those rapid methods. Perhaps you can find a therapist who is.

Charlie

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User Profile: enthusiasticTortoise6681
enthusiasticTortoise6681 June 26th, 2021

No. But once in 10 years the planets align and the sun blesses you to find the one therapist you can REALLY talk to