Try a new relationship or not…
My ex and I broke up about a year ago.
I didn’t get a closure then and now I met someone who wants to start a relationship, but I still have a feeling for my ex. He recently wished my birthday after 7- month no contact. I don’t know if I should dive into a new relationship without a closure.
My ex was going through skin cancer and became distant. When I asked him for a closure, he didn’t provide. I’ve been confused the past 1 year. I worked so hard on forgetting about him, but I still care for him. I know no response received from him a year ago was probably a sign of closure, but his text started making me insecure again. It was probably out of courtesy. He said nothing more than happy birthday.
He broke up with me a couple of years ago, but I gave him a second chance.
I feel I’ve been stuck and can’t move forward the past 6 years.
Everything's going to be alright it a new year and you want to bring in a new mindset 💯💯💯👍👍
Thank you for the positive message! I don’t know exactly what I should do..
@amiableAvocado8991 prayers for you
Hi!
It's exciting that someone's interested in a relationship with you. And I understand your hesitancy.
It is important that you feel truly ready to be with someone else, 100%. If this new person is impatient/insistent that you start something serious now, I would consider that a red flag, and wouldn't go for it.
Your ex may have sent birthday wishes as a friend, with no ability to/interest in re-establishing a committed romantic relationship. But, if you are hoping that he is working his way back to that.....
Have you tried having direct conversation with your ex about that?
If your Ex cannot provide closure through open, honest, emotionally-available conversations, could working with a therapist help you process and move on confidentially?
Love to you 💜👍
