Venting/ Need some advice about something
So, the guy that I had a crush on, we’ve been talking for a few months, he said that he liked me back in the beginning of us talking but now everything has just went downhill. For one, he constantly asks me to send him nudes all the time nonstop. I’ve never met a more disrespectful guy. Looking back at my past relationship of 2 years, me and my ex got to know eachother, we talked about our interests, we had a connection. He was respectful and never treated me like I’m just some object. Our relationship was genuine and passionate, that was real love. But sadly he broke up with me and has been in a new relationship for some time now. I can’t find my soulmate when I’ve already lost them. The crush on this guy I’ve been talking to has started fading because of him constantly asking me for inappropriate things. It’s a turn off. I can’t trust him, one minute he claims he “likes me” next minute he has “seeing someone” in his profile. I know what love is and this is definitely not love, he does not love me. I don’t have time for someone who is going to continuously lead me on and give me false hope for something that isn’t there. And I don’t want to be dealing with someone else’s man especially if they are taken and are already in a relationship because that is wrong on so many levels. He is single but it’s confusing with him, I want to be for sure if he’s single or not. I don’t want to be talking to someone who already has someone. I’ve been thinking of cutting them off and stop talking to them because of this. It’s kind of starting to piss me off. Fucking around with multiple people isn’t cute or something to be proud of. He says he’s not a player but I don’t believe him.
@strwberryhearts your last line says it all
@RHassan Which one?
You have been listing all the red flags in this so-called relationship you have with this guy. All of these negative feelings you're getting in return, is enough to call it quits with him. Are you still hoping that he will suddenly change into the guy you're wanting him to be? I can tell you, and probably everyone here else will agree, that this guy will not change. This is his true self. He doesn't want a real relationship with you and probably could care less how he's making you feel.
You seem to know what you want in a relationship, and this is far from what you expected in a healthy relationship. There is no point in dragging this any further. Rather than using all your mental energy to think about why/how he's not giving you answers, not reciprocating your feelings, or longing for an answer (that he could easily lie about); use all that energy to cut him off! Don't think about what or how he will feel, it really doesn't matter. He doesn't deserve to have you care about his feelings.
@Jaeteuk I told him that we shouldn’t be friends anymore/ talk anymore but he is taking it as a joke and doesn’t care why I said we shouldn’t talk anymore. He hasn’t responded to my other texts in 8 hours. He thinks that I am joking. All the stuff I wrote to him and he only responded to one part of the text. He has been constantly wasting my time and leading me on but he says otherwise, that he isn’t playing with my feelings, which he actually is. He can just say that he is seeing someone because I literally seen his status where it says “seeing someone” but he tells me to not worry about it when I have the right to know. I don’t have time for people nowadays just playing with my feelings and not knowing what they want or wasting my time, not being able to answer a simple question. I know he probably will not change if there is something that needs changing. And yeah he also put in his bio “my true color…” after he finished going off on me talking about my mental breakdowns and stuff. Then earlier today, he said that I need to stop writing my thoughts and feelings etc. Another thing about him is that he loves to try and tell me what to do which is another huge turn off and pisses me off. And he also is a hater towards me on the down low, I can sense the vibe.
After telling him you don't want to be friends anymore, just block/delete his contact from your Social Media. You seriously don't need to care or put up with anything else he says to you. You don't need to wait for his response to your thoughts and feelings, just get rid of him completely. Waiting for responses that you wish to see from him, is a waste of time. Knowing that what he says may not be true anyways, just block/delete his contact. Don't need to think twice about anything else, just do it and free yourself from all the negative emotions that he had caused you to think about all this time. This is the important step you must take to stand up for yourself, to not let him abuse you, and make you think less of yourself. Getting rid of him, is to make your mentality stronger. You have to do this! No more what ifs, buts, and hoping things will turn out better with him in the future~
@strwberryhearts
@Jaeteuk You are completely right. I’m trying to stand up for myself but he is just taking it as a joke :( Like he’s just brushing it off.
Stand up for yourself by blocking/deleting him. Who cares if he sees it as a joke. Just cut all communication with him, whether he thinks you're joking or not. You deserve to be respected, and he clearly doesn't know what being respectful means.
@Jaeteuk Okay, I have to mentally prepare myself for that kind of stuff before hand. Telling him what bothered me didn’t even do anything etc. And thank you 🤧 People just walk over me, not really am respected.
You must stop people from walking all over you. No one deserves to be treated like that. You need to stand firm, for your well-being. We all deserve to be respected, in any type a relationship. Respect should be one of the very top criteria of any relationship. If you let people walk over you, they will continue to do so. You need to be stronger, mentally and emotionally~
@sincereBranch1540 Yes it is :(
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