50+ community Check-in August 16-19 2021
Hello lovelies in the 50+ community. I hope you enjoyed your weekend. Nice to see you in the forum again 
What promise to yourself do you still need to fulfill? If you have fulfilled the promises or did not make any what is something you like to promise to yourself to do in future?
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Hello Peace,
Had a lovely weekend... It was India's Independence Day weekend... August 15. Hope you had a good one too.
Promise to myself I have to fulfill is to be more disciplined and regular about my physical regime otherwise am doing quite well.
Take care.
Tani
@RideaRainbow
Oh yes, India celebrated 75th year of Independence on August 15! Happy Independance!
Hope you get back into exercise very soon, maybe starting with a walk indoors or outdoors tomorrow?
Thanks so much. I do walk but need to regularly n more extensively.
@RideaRainbow Hi there. I live in Florida, and my access to parks, without having to drive, is limited. But there is one, called Moccasin Slough. I walk there nearly every morning. It's fairly shaded. Friendly other souls there much of the time, but not crowded (Florida is not big on walking). I do wish the park trail were longer, though.
Hello everyone I hope you had a great weekend I promised myself that I will get a my bachelor's degree in behavioral health science. And I'm also going forward with my master's degree in clinical marriage and family therapy beginning January 2022. I promised myself that I would have my own counseling services and our plan to fulfill that vow to myself!!
@MsVee2021
Wow, these are amazing promises and goals, wish you all the best for it!
that’s amazing, your desire to help people is such an encouragement. best wishes to you and your endeavor!
I still need to figure out how to stop being afraid to let people know me.
@crimsonChestnut5482
Well my friend, Jesus (God) knows you, sees you, accept you. He created you. So therefore don't be afraid. It is much more important to be accepted by God that of men.
Love from Helga.
@crimsonChestnut5482
It must be hard to hide your true self and wear a mask all the time. Sometimes social anxiety or bad experiences in the past can cause us to withdraw. It is difficult for others to decide if they like you and enjoy your company if you're pretending to be someone you're not too. I hope coming here will help you to show your authentic self - we accept and appreciate you as you are. 
Hello What promise to yourself do you still need to fulfill? To stop letting things get under my skin, and make me reactive. or upset me.I am too easy to let others get in my space with a negative atmosphere and get me off track.
If you have fulfilled the promises or did not make any what is something you like to promise to yourself to do in future?
@scarletPear1945
I hope you will be able to keep that promise to yourself. Life is hard when there are no good boundaries and you absorb all the negativity from others.
@amiablePeace77
promises
will always hurt, will always be bad, we will keep screwing up all time, promise never want to any promise can not never promise and do any good never good never right always bad always not know what to promise we not do right if promise will screw up bad no matter what so promise to always keep doing bad as we are always bad did it right
@Amelia2324
Hugs Amelia. It's okay to promise not to promise but just to hope for the best.
What promise to yourself do you still need to fulfill?
I haven't made any real promises. I don't like promises or resolutions or whatever. There are things I need to do but haven't done yet. I procrastinate. Also, I need to be in the right frame of mind to do some things.
If you have fulfilled the promises or did not make any what is something you like to promise to yourself to do in future?
I don't plan on making any promises. I would do something like that if I had someone to do it with or to be my coach. I'm on my own, so I can't guarantee I'll get anything done.
@WharfRat
It can be hard to self motivate, having a coach or just a buddy makes it surely easier.
This is a link to our forum positivity and gratitutde. Sometime it already helps to read what helps other people or just their thoughts. https://www.7cups.com/forum/PositivityGratitude_170/InspirationMotivation_2229/
Have you considered to participate in some of the many challenges offered on the site, like for example the self esteem challenge?
I am thankful that no one promises me anything and I don't make promises to others But I try to do whatever I tell someone I will do, so if I slip they won"t be too disappointed in me.
@scarletPear1945
You seem to be a very reliable person scarletPear1945.
@amiablePeace77
I try to be but sometimes I miss the mark, sometimes I overextend myself and then I get agitated and upset with myself.
This only becomes a problem because I am reliable I get a lot of stuff threw on my plate with the expectation that I can and will get it done and done right. Thank you for saying that.
@scarletPear1945
Dear friend.
It is OK to say "no" also.
@Helgafy
I am learning that lesson the hard way but yes you are so right. Now that I am saying no, people have an issue with me and think I am being selfish even my family. It hurts and makes me feel uncomfortable but also is becoming easier for me.
@scarletPear1945
Very good my friend. I have had to learn it too. In one case I had a neighbourh, he "borrowed" money (but also toilettpaper, tabletts for pain in the head) and i never got anything back. First I thought - so nice to be nice! But I had to stop. I made a big paper inside my door writing a big "NO" so I was prepared when he again would ring at the door-bell.
Love from Helga.
@Helgafy
Thanks, HAHA I need to do that
@scarletPear1945
I hope very much that you will find a way to just do what you can instead of overextending yourself and also be gentle with yourself when things don't go the way you expected. No one is perfect.
