50+ community Check-in August 30-Sept. 1, 2019
Happy Friday everyone in 50+ 
I hope you had some good times this week and would like to invite you to reflect on the past days and ask yourself these questions:
Whats working?
How do I move this forward?
What can I learn from this?
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One thing that has been working for me is that when I feel a negative feeling or have a negative thought I tell myself, "That's stupid to feel (think) that way. Your goal is to be happy so be happy!"
Why worry about what someone might say? Why think about past mistakes and how I could have done this or that? Why feel hurt when the person probably didn't mean to hurt me? It's stupid for me to dwell on such things when all I want to be is happy.
It's working for me!
I love the things you post! So insightful x@Kavajava
@Kavajava
You put things in the right perspective, "down to earth questions" - it's amazing that you can help yourself in this way! Keep up the good job you're doing
You really don't want me to answer those questions. Not right now. I have suffered 3 concussions over a 2 month period, my brain is in a fog, my memory is like Swiss cheese, my wrist is in a brace after what was a possible break turned out to be a severe sprain, my best friend decided to sever our friendship and today's her birthday, I have a new and better relationship with my cats, and I'm ok as long as I just keep reading fluff fiction that I can get lost in. And I'd be a lot better if I could figure out how to post a picture of my kitties. Does that answer any of the questions?
@Cammiecat
So sorry to hear that you're in so much pain at the moment, I can see that all of this is very upsetting. It might not feel like it right now but nothing lasts forever, good times will come again 
. I hope you will feel much better soon, glad you have your cats and like reading fiction.
For posting pictures I use https://imgur.com/signin. So I download a picture from my laptop to imgur and then post it here.
Soulsings (post July 10) gave very good information about this topic here
https://www.7cups.com/forum/50plusSupportCommunity_193/QuizzesFunandIcebreakers_560/
WhatinlifeisbeautifultoyouWheredoyoufindinspiration_203073/1/#2023564
Let me please know if it worked or you need any more information. HUGS
Im not wanted in chat rooms why should I answer here? Clicks are 7 cups . Not helping. I dont fit in. I tried and got interigated. Sorry Im trying to deal with something that happened yes ago. My fault. I thought someone would listen ( listener).
@Lauren63 I'm here if you want to talk to me. I'm lonely and apparently I don't fit in either.
@Lauren63
HUGS Lauren. You are loved here, you belong here . I hope that one day you can see how much people care about you. You can always pm me, I am very thankful you do sometimes.
I'm having a very difficult evening. I'm lonely. My partner of 30 years died 13 months ago. And my best friend, the one I could tell anything to and not feel judged, judged me and then left me about a week and a half ago. I could literally go for days and weeks without seeing another human being. I'm lonely.
Hey mate sorry you are feeling so bad, even though I
@Cammiecat
Loneliness is one of the worst feelings we can have, particularly after such a big loss . Please do not stay all alone, you can always come here and connect to a listener or find support in a group session. You are part of this family and we like to help you.
Whats working? Nothing. Nothing works anymore.
How do I move this forward? There is no way to move anything forward.
What can I learn from this? That I should just give up, don't do anything, don't speak to anyone, don't try anything new. None of it will work anyway, so don't even bother.
@Offmytrack
Sorry that you are feeling so awful with what you are going through atm. I hope things will improve for you
What is something you can do that gives you some sort of relief?
@amiablePeace77, about the only thing I can do that gives me any relief is playing music. Fortunately, last night my music teacher gave me a whole list of places that I could play at.
@Offmytrack
That's wonderful, a teacher to be grateful for. Guess you feel exited to start?
@amiablePeace77, well, if I get a job I will get excited.
@Offmytrack
So you have to check out the places and ask. I hope that you'll find something soon. Are there places around you where you could just go and play and earn some money, like on art markets, festivals?
@amiablePeace77 There are all kinds of places where a person could make a bit of money. There are a few things I have to do first, talk to places and get the email and name and phone number of the person that does their bookings, I need to get copies of the songs I have written so I can email them to the booking person. I can't do that until this weekend.
@Offmytrack
Sounds like a busy weekend but one day (hopefully soon) you can reap the benefits. You seem to be organized very well.