50+ community Check-in July 26-28, 2019
Hi 50+ community, hope you will all have a wonderful weekend 
Lets take a moment and Witness our feelings. Find a quiet place and take some deep breath and ask yourself:
Am I being true to my own values or do I bend too much so that others like me?
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@amiablePeace77 a great activity! I really liked how it relates to mindfulness. I personally do see myself sticking to my values.
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Awesome Butterfly, I find sticking to our own values means we live an authentic life in which we can find peace and contentment.
I think I bend too much. But then again it's on to 2 pm and that means I should nap.
@Cammiecat
Are bending in a way to get everything done, knowing though you need that time to recover from the day?
Hope you will have an earlier bedtime tonight.
I've been trying to say "Yes" more to the experiences that life has to offer, like Jim Carrey in the movie, "Yes Man." Yesterday friends asked me to drive 8 hours round trip to pick up their dog. I said yes, but under my breath and behind their backs I cursed and swore.
A little background, I'm from Hawaii (the island of Oahu) where driving for 30 minutes is considered long. In 2 or 3 hours you can drive around the whole island, which I only did once every 2 years. So driving 8 hours is outside my comfort zone!
But it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Hopefully next time I can say "yes" with less negativity.
@Kavajava
Living on a small island myself I can see that your friends request seemed to be a higher demand for you, guess though not to them being used to long distances.
Maybe next time you feel different when asked or what about denying it if you are not comfortable with it?
@amiablePeace77 Yeah, I guess from their prespective not that big of a deal. And, yes, could say no, though trying to be more open to experiences and not be so negative.
@Kavajava
Good thought. I agree it's important to have new experiences in our lives, be open to try.
@amiablePeace77 Thank you so much
@Angelface50
How are you doing today? 
Oh this is an ongoing dilemma for me as I am generally too nice because I do like to help people. On the other hand, I need to know where to draw the line for my own sanity. Hey everyone, I got a job ( again) and I am so grateful to be working. It is difficult to get hired at 57. I am in a factory that will pretty much hire anyone with a pulse and transportation. I will be back more after I get used to being busy busy busy again. I miss you all!
@Chickadee123 A book that helped me to say "No" was "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" by Manuel J. Smith.
@Chickadee123
Wanting to help others is wonderful and I can imagine how hard it must be for you to say
Am I being true to my own values or do I bend too much so that others like me?
I stick to my own values most of the time, occasionally I bend a bit to make others more comfortable.
@Offmytrack
Seems you are living an authentic life and still trying to comfort others, awesome.
@amiablePeace77 = I try to do things, live a good life, help my friends. Isn't that why we are here?
@Offmytrack
