50's Plus Check in thread August 27 to August 30
How are you all doing? Do you ever struggle with negative thinking with your mindset? If you have a harsh inner critic or get caught in worry, stress, anxiety, depression or wrestle with low self-worth, then you know some of the symptoms first hand.
Negative (unhelpful) thinking patterns can have a strong and sometimes devastating impact on our relationships, our health, our work… our lives.
What are some thinking patterns that you think you can change in your life?
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astonish me~! when i was young i never even knew there were people like ME... :D now i feel so satisfied with my personal progress and continuing improvements. i know that nothing is permanent, every thing changes, especially me~! perhaps it's a bit contrary to the Original Poster's Intent, but i think it IS important to know that there are people who have put in the effort and gotten the results! Keep ON Practicing Practicing Practicing~ 
@GusteeMoon123
I agree with you totally, lots of folks never know or think are there others like me? Is it just me? What is happening and why am I thinking like this? Learning things and feeling more satisfied with personal progress and continuing improvements are really helpful in our goals. I agree nothing is permanent and sometimes we go forward 10 steps then back 5 but then we just keep on tracking on trying to improve. Just putting in our effort and doing our best is amazing work.
Yes, lots of Practicing helps improve things. I agree - Keep On Practicing Practicing Practicing ~
@DanaMH I like the chart that compares fixed mindset and willing to change. I find when I am in the fixed mindset it is almost like trying to paddle upstream. Very difficult
@soulsings
I agree with that. Sometimes it does feel like we are going up stream like taking 10 steps forwards and then 5 steps back and then we have to do them again. But we learn from those steps which is good for us also even thou sometimes we don't think it is.
@DanaMH I think eventually we stop beating ourselves and go with the flow.
@soulsings
I totally agree with that.
I think the question about negative thinking was more helpful than the chart. I often have negative thinking about my skills or how I
@Zengrl
I am glad you thought the question was helpful. Sometimes we think we aren't good enough and others can reinforce to us that we are doing better than we really think we are. That is really good to hear that you are catching yourself now thinking about it. I agree that list of accomplishments of things we do really are helpful to us.
Hi New here and glad to find a group for my peers.
checkin:
todays been up and down - okay at moment
peace
@sociableBike1680
Welcome to 7cups and sorry to here that things have been up and down. Hopefully it does get better. I know 50+ doesn't have an activie room 24/7 yet but feel free to join in on the 35+ info also.
@DanaMH thanks! i will check it out
i was looking at the general chats and felt way out of place!
Man...tired.
@SixStrRzr
Sorry to hear that you are tired. Maybe you can take a short nap or maybe go to bed a little earlier tonight and it might help a little so you feel not so tired tomorrow.
My Mindset is that I may be over 50 but I am still awesome!!! :) I dont need approval from anyone anymore and what I do is what i want too do !!! I do get down of course but it is up to me get myself back up and keep pushing ahead. I do alot of self positive thinking and helping others and allowing myself to cry if I need too.
I see so many that are alot younger than I am that thinkng that their lives are not worth living or that they want more than they have and alot more I want them to know that life is short and time goes by so fast so get up live life and know that you can face the fears and PUSH harder to get better and that they can come to us older folks and ask for support we will be here!!! Material things are nothing but Mental and Phyiscal Health are everything!!!!
Peace
TDB :)
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
That is correct you are awesome!
That is so great that you do a lot of self positive thinking and helping others and allowing yourself to cry if you need to because that gets the emotions out instead of holding them in.
I agree there are a lot of folks struggling in the world and material things are nothing but mental and phyiscal health is very important and folks should reach out. Ask for help and if folks don't hear ask again. Sometimes you have to use different words so folks understand but asking for help is a really big step to getting the help foks need from others.
Woke up and immediately felt bad, had crying session I think I scared myself. Settled down now
@sociableBike1680
Sorry that you woke up and immediately felt bad and had a crying session but getting those emotions out is a good thing and not bottling them in like some folks do. Glad to hear that you were able to settle yourself down.
@DanaMH thanks its been on and off already today. I have been like this for past few days and its unusual for me to be this bad.
@sociableBike1680 sorry to hear you are too sad. If you have a doctor that prescribes meds or a therapist, you might want to contact them since this is an out of the ordinary event.
@soulsings thanks it been a rough week
Had a lot of negative thinking last night because I posted on a blog about a recent event and Im worried it may have been taken the wrong way by someone else that posted. I decided not to respond today and Ill reread it today to see if Im just being paranoid.
@Zengrl
Sorry to hear about your negative thinking last night about your blog post. Maybe you can clarify the post? Sometimes people don't understand words that we type because they don't know the true meaning of them or read something else totally. Sometimes we are worried about them also. Hope everything is ok.
@DanaMH Thanks for your answer. I reread the persons post this morning and decided that I shouldnt assume their response was based on mine. I thanked them for their detail and told them I would link their post to mine and added one of their points to show my appreciation. I stopped worrying today because I felt my response was good no matter what the original reason of their post. I also asked for others to post more of their own views, so I look forward to seeing what shows up.
@Zengrl
That sounds so good to hear.
Today I had lunch with someone that may have work for me, but it wouldn
@Zengrl
At least you may have a potential to look forward to maybe which is a good thing.
@DanaMH
Negative thinking is my life. And guess what? I am usually right. There isnt a lot positive in this world anymore.
@Lauren63
Sorry that you are having so much negative thinking in your life. I know sometimes when I talk about these to my therapist they tell me about cognitive distortion which you might look into and see if it helps any.