Addicted to people?
I'm addicted to any dopamine release whatever it's through the screen or through a conversation, I can feel it instantly, that "click" when I talk to someone or a chatbot or i turn a video. The same. Whatever it's social media, cute videos, explicit videos, a laugh,my brain can't stop searching for the next dopamine peak. No. I don't care about their life, whatever they're doctor, surgeon assistants, teacher or else. Deeply in my heart I truly don't care, I realized it, my therapist was true. I search for the next drama, the next peak, the next and the next.... Before turning into a stalker to a person I truly don't care about. I just crave the hormones release from the interactions. I wait, I obsess over something that would never happen, I shut myself, turn off the pattern and the next week, I hear a simple sentence from someone who's completely different, and I'm hooked again. But today it's different. Today I felt it and I said no. When the convo stopped I forced myself to leave, without waiting for anything and everything. I said no to my addiction of people, and for once, and I'm very proud of myself.
@aquaFig4719
good for you! it is a big thing to recognize and walk away.
@toughTiger6481 thank you, yeah I know that I will get easier as long as I don't feed it 😊
@aquaFig4719
You should be proud.
You recognized a pattern and you changed it.
You took accountability .
It's not easy to be honest with ourselves.
I admire that 🩷
@Amanda84 hey thank you so much for this 💕 I'll try to be better
@aquaFig4719
It's not about being better, it's just about being you and finding the right ways to express this, you are already doing better 🩷
@Amanda84 thank you for this 🤧 these days I also think about searching for a way to appreciate someone without letting myself go into "crazy mode" but it's hard you know... It's either I don't feel the spark and I find them "boring" (when they're not at all) or the other side 💀... I don't have a better option than to say no but you can guess that I feel lonely even if I'm very sociable...
@aquaFig4719 That level of self awareness is huge.
A lot of people chase that same “click” and never slow down long enough to notice what they’re actually chasing. You did. You felt the pull, named it, and made a different choice in the moment. That’s not small.
It makes sense that your brain would get hooked on that dopamine spike. Conversations, attention, novelty, even drama can all light up the same reward pathways as other compulsive behaviors. The fact that you can see the pattern doesn’t mean you’re cold or heartless. It means you’re recognizing the cycle.
What stood out to me is that today you paused and said no. Not because the urge disappeared, but because you chose differently. That’s how patterns start to shift. Not by never feeling the pull again, but by interrupting it once, then again, then again.
Be proud of that. That’s real progress.
@aquaFig4719 The fact that you caught it in real time and chose differently is a big deal.
A lot of people live in that dopamine chase and never step back enough to see it. You did. You felt the hook, recognized the pattern, and interrupted it. That’s not luck. That’s awareness turning into action.
What you’re describing makes sense neurologically. Novelty, attention, emotional intensity, even drama can all spike dopamine. Your brain learns fast. It starts scanning for the next hit. That doesn’t mean you’re shallow or manipulative. It means your reward system got trained to chase stimulation.
The important part is this: today you created a gap between urge and action.
That gap is where change lives.
You didn’t wait for the feeling to disappear. You just didn’t follow it. That’s strength. Even if the urge comes back next week, you now know you can interrupt it.
Be proud of that. It’s how patterns start to loosen their grip.
Yasssss!!!! Way to go!!!
