How to quit porn/masturbation
Hello, I’m a young dude approaching my mid 20s and have been addicted to porn/masturbation for almost a decade now. To say it has ruined my life is an understatement. I can’t seem to go more than 24 hours without indulging in this demonic act and has stopped the best football ( soccer ) player in my town from achieving my goals to making it to pro level. This has done irreversible damage to me already but I’m determined to cut it old. Please help. Does having a regular sexual partner help?
@theboywithhope
I know what u talking about. 23 now and free from it. I am a Christian now, and when you say it is demonic act... for me, yeah, it literally is.
Others will share their experience or tips.
For me... it was when I found Christ. He gave me new heart and just changed me.. and freed me from it... it is just gone. Even though it wasnt instant thing. And I learned other things to get away from it... practical, like... buying dumbphone instead, keeping myself busy all the time, having supportive friends and people around me... and just eliminating the triggers, u know?
You can do it... but it will not be easy. Do not give up. It is not about how much you fall, but about keeping going and learning to pick yourself up. God bless u
Thank you so much, I’m happy you already beat it, I’m not going to give up this time. This is the first time I’ve spoken with anyone or people suffering from the same thing
@theboywithhope
Brother, do not bottle it in... and if you can, even at least online, find someone who has beat it or who is on the same journey of recovery... it is better than being alone, and easier... although you can beat it alone too, but it is much harder.
And believe me, there is so much people, especially young men... it is modern day plague... and no wonder how today´s society is so overly sexualized. Like pornography, hook ups and sex... I think it does a huge deal... like it is keeping us still little weak boys... and not being men. Even though we don´t even know what does it mean to be a man in today´s world, because it is so different and even against men in some ways. We are lacking good role models and father figures and we are lost.
Anyway, brother, you gonna make it too.
How long have you been freed for?
@theboywithhope
4 years. It doesnt mean that there is no possibility to get back to it and commit it... that is why I fell sometimes along the way and struggled... by my own decision even though I was free from it but it was only a stumble and didnt change a thing.
Please can you be my accountability partner, I don’t have a lot of empathetic people around where I live. That’s of course if you have the time for it. I’ve tried fighting it alone and I don’t think I can
@theboywithhope
Well, I would like to brother... but God is leading me different direction... like I am living (stumbling a lot) without internet and all that completely, and I have peace like that. When I am online like now... it is a sign that I am doing bad... it hurts me a lot. So, I cant be here. I write letters with one brother, but I dont know if you want to do so with me bc it is not really fast nor easiest way.
But I am sure you can find someone.
I dont know brother... you can find someone here. You can find ... maybe some supportive groups in your surroundings, your area? I would recommend you a church even though u dont believe, because many people there went through it and they actually care. But unfortunately, it is hard to find the right church... because some of people are just... not living and caring and loving, lost and also some hypocrites... only saying "Lord, Lord".
Thank you bro. God bless you in your journey
@theboywithhope
" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord." Jeremiah 29
There is always hope brother, that is why I like your nickname. Dont ever lose it. It is "the anchor of our soul".
You will be okay, you will do it.
Seriously try to find someone, you will... it will make everything easier for you. And dont give in to those thoughts, the voice we hear in our head "You did it again... you are trying and trying ... and you always fail. You are weak, you cannot do it, you will not make it. Look at you... how long have u been trying? So many months, so many years... and u r still here... give up. You are worthless... maybe you aint made for life..." All that, right? It becomes the truth and reality to your life only when you accept it and agree with it.
God bless u too, thank you
Prayers build faith. He knows the number of hairs on your head. He cares for you and will give you the strength, tool, and armor to overcome all evil standing in your way. Ask and you will recieve. Seek Heaven.
The previous replies are spot on. I just want you to know you still can improve. I'm a sex addict as well but my porn addiction led to me exposing myself multiple times and this last time was my last! we have to break the invisible generational curses and chains. I believe in you, and I've set boundaries for myself. When I leave I set a certain amount of time, or don't go to certain stores where ik I'll be tempted. We got this! God rains His Grace on us long as we genuinely try and believe in Him and His Word. Much love bro
The previous replies are spot on. I just want you to know you still can improve. I'm a sex addict as well but my porn addiction led to me exposing myself multiple times and this last time was my last! we have to break the invisible generational curses and chains. I believe in you, and I've set boundaries for myself. When I leave I set a certain amount of time, or don't go to certain stores where ik I'll be tempted. We got this! God rains His Grace on us long as we genuinely try and believe in Him and His Word. Much love bro
Hello brother. I hope you are doing well. I am also struggling with this addiction and chat gpt recommended me this app. I have been doing this for 3 years. I had stopped for 9 months but i failed again but i have faith I will eliminate it completely. You too Don't lose hope as your username says.
@theboywithhope I want to encourage you in your journey. Yes, it can be helpful having a regular faithful partner. However, it still can be a struggle because of the actual changes in ones brain chemistry which takes a while to normalize. A pet scan of a brain of one with a heroine addiction is very similar to one with a porn addiction. But one can gain victory over a sexual addiction.
Im totally understand what you feel, been addicted to it for almost a decade too, and yeah it almost ruined my life, more into how I see the world, sometimes i feel overwhelmed by the temptation, I start to addict after I have a sleep issue, where I can sleep well after I'm tired of doing that, But I CAN stopped for half a year because I was busy with college assignments, and then I came back, addict again, and every time I tried to quit, I could always, but it was only three months at the most, and then I got addict again, again and again, I've done that almost every day myself. And I don't like it because I'm tired, there I am losing color in my life, now I feel so frustrated because everytime after I did "that" I'm just gonna feel so empty, I realize it's just instant dopamine release, and what I really want is not that, but the real feeling, the real connection, the real tension with someone i love. Then now that I'm in the process of stopping, I've stop a month ago, even though now I'm still reading nsfw novels (its still hard because i love tension the most and emotional connection) but at least now I don't watch and do that, I'll do it slowly but surely, because I realize all I want to do is do it with a partner, and not alone, But I don't want to hook up or do it with just anyone or random people, I want to keep it for my future partner, I want to do it with the person I love because it's gonna be beautiful (I imagine it). Even if it's so hard, especially during the ovulation phase, my body will get hot! But I can definitely hold and save this urge for later with the future husband (idk who). But you'll see I'm going to release everything for him because I've managed to hold and save all this urge. I believe myself I can do it.
and do you know that I hate myself and always blame myself for doing that, and now my hands got injured, and I blame myself again because of that, im so sorry, myself :c
Firstly, great job on admitting what your addiction is. It's very difficult to admit this because it tends to sound like you're just a pervert or something when truly you're not!!
I've been dealing with it for 2 decades and just recently have made steps in stopping. It has destroyed me entirely and I'm currently rebuilding myself but I'm telling you this because it is possible.
I am a Christian. I understand many people have their spiritual beliefs and their transformations and devotion have allowed them to be freed from any addiction they had.
Yet, in my case. God didn't take it away. Why should he? He gives us the power to find help ourselves and make decisions on our own.
Which I did!
I went to see a psychiatrist to manage my depression, adhd, stress, anxiety and addiction.
I was put on a medication that has helped me tremendously to stop the porn addiction. The last time I did I felt so dissatisfied and disgusted that it has made me not want it. All because I sought medical help.
There is many ways to overcome it. For some, they have been blessed that by following Christ they have been healed. Others run or read or play games. And some just need medical help.
Hope this helps but always stay strong! You can overcome this. One way or another.
Hey dude . I know it must have been hard to deal with this demonic act. But usually this demonic act has a reason behind it. Like is it your escape from harsh reality ? Or you do this because you feel lonely? Maybe angry ? Find the reason why you do this . I also recommend doing like a super rewarding hobby . Like exercising or going to the gym. However , It will not vanish in a day and night. Try to reduce it as much as possible. Try to do it every 48 hours then 72 hours then 100 hours then week then month. Keep in mind that you will ace it the first time you try. And if you fall it's totally fine you did progress and don't fully give up to it. Fun fact actually porn/masturbation effects are reversable so don't worry about the damage.
If it seems impossible I recommend reaching out for a specialist. It will save you ALOT of time and effort.
I wish you the best !
Hey dude . I know it must have been hard to deal with this demonic act. But usually this demonic act has a reason behind it. Like is it your escape from harsh reality ? Or you do this because you feel lonely? Maybe angry ? Find the reason why you do this . I also recommend doing like a super rewarding hobby . Like exercising or going to the gym. However , It will not vanish in a day and night. Try to reduce it as much as possible. Try to do it every 48 hours then 72 hours then 100 hours then week then month. Keep in mind that you will ace it the first time you try. And if you fall it's totally fine you did progress and don't fully give up to it. Fun fact actually porn/masturbation effects are reversable so don't worry about the damage.
If it seems impossible I recommend reaching out for a specialist. It will save you ALOT of time and effort.
I wish you the best !
