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Husband’s addictive pornography

User Profile: Monsoon1310
Monsoon1310 November 9th, 2025

Hi,

I found my husband looking into porn before we were engaged for a year and I ignored it, afterwards I started sending photos of myself for him to stop looking into other girls but after we got engaged before our wedding I found out he likes to look at other girls pictures and so I confronted him, he of course cried and kept apologizing that he won’t do it again.

And so, there were sign that he didn’t even stop after our marriage, confronting him again, he deleted *** which is the main source and found that he was paying a subscription for a girls account who posts pictures of herself half naked.

Anyways, I gave another chance and he was looking at other girls while I was with him, just gazing at their junk or whatever. I warned him. and recently I opened his *** and found that a lot of porn reels coming up and I confronted him and I know he watches this again.

He kept denying, Cuz I didn’t give an actual proof that he is currently watching, every time I needed to confront I will just need a proof. Till a few days ago, I saw him waiting in a parking lot and asked for his phone and found that he sends to an AI to send him pictures. I‘m so frustrated and angry, I feel like I can’t go on and forgive him over and over again.

I tried being more intimate but now I can’t and I feel disgusted each time I look at him.

He went to a therapist and asked to stay close to me for the next 2 weeks as he only do this when he’s alone and keep himself occupied to not think and give up. If it didn’t help, he will take some medications.

I am not sure if I am in the right place to give any other chances, as I have chronic depression and I am currently struggling with what am i supposed to do with him.

Should I leave him or should I stay and give a last chance!

I love him and he was my hope to continue living and now everything collapsed.

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 November 9th, 2025

@Monsoon1310

Firstly he can't be your reason to continue living.

Our own happiness and mental health is not dependent on another person .

And nor can he expect you to be always available to stop him looking or fixating in p..orn, that's not realistic.

And both of you are suffering as a result because it's taking away from you wanting to be intimate.

It's about having an honest conversation and him taking accountability in the relationship and putting the relationship first.

Trust has to be in a relationship or it's not going to work 💜💖

I genuinely hope you both get back to a healthier and happier place 💜

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User Profile: ambitiousHickory1216
ambitiousHickory1216 November 10th, 2025

I kind of relate