Limerence
Pleaseeee someone message me if you can help with limerence (love addiction) and actually know about it. I feel like I’m going insane. It’s been going on for a year and 8 months now, it won’t stop.
@whokilledmrmoonlight
I am sorry someone with more experience has not answered you....
Limerence in my opinion is more common because it is more like what is portrayed as love in movies etc.... all glowing with zero problems ......... it is strong in our head and that feeling of this person being everything when in reality we overlook any flaws or things that we do not see in them.
Is this situation you are having reciprocated .... i have seen/ heard of many couples throw away their lives and after getting together with the limerence partner it falls apart quickly. because limerence is not as strong as enduring love. I think about a situation i was in with someone they seemed to fill in parts i was not getting and me for them as well but just like making plans and all the details and obstacles we never even saw coming makes it clear we do not see this going long term.
I read that some last a few years .......so although yours is long what stage are you in ?
Usually the 4 stages defined differently on several websites/ articles they are a crush/ infatuation..... obsession..... deterioration ..... the resolution.
Thank youu, and yeah I think I’m in the deterioration stage. I can’t stop thinking about him even though I know it should be over. Every time I think about him, it’s this mix of butterflies and gut-wrenching pain because I know he’s moved on or doesn’t feel the same, or maybe even forgot about me. I keep replaying our memories and holding on to this hope that maybe we could be friends again or something, but deep down I know it’s probably not going to happen. At least I know now he’s not perfect, I truly realize that, but my mind still plays tricks on me lol. Sometimes it feels like I don’t even care that much anymore, but thinking about him and being sad is just a habit I’ve made for myself. Idk, it’s a mix of really caring, being sad, and it just being a habit. Depends on the day, but I still obsess over him more than anything. Everything reminds me of him and I haven’t even talked or seen him in over 2 months. It’s embarrassing. My perception of time is even warped and I’ve ruined friendships, my sleep schedule, hygiene, hobbies, etc.
@whokilledmrmoonlight
I get that we wanted the perfect situation we had in our heads....
we felt good thinking great thoughts about what IF but most of my thoughts like that did not take into account the many many hurdles to that picture. it is hard to let go because our daydreams or thoughts had filled a void for a long time....
@whokilledmrmoonlight Have you tried any therapy i was probably in limerence a few weeks ago slowly getting over it i never met the guy he blocked me so i kinda understand
No but I am getting some soon I think. I heard most therapists don’t know about limerence though so idk if it will work well
@whokilledmrmoonligh Yeah I am not sure on this one really but Reddit had a community for it they seemed friendly there might be therapists but you would have to type in the Google therapist that specializes in it but I know neurodivergent women especially can be prone to it I got article if you like the link good luck :)
@whokilledmrmoonlight has been almost a month. Is anything new happening are you still struggling with limerence? I went no contact and doing good i don't miss him
I was feeling really good for a while, like I was genuinely moving on. But now I'm back to feeling down again. It's always been a cycle of moving on and then missing him, but at least it gets a little easier each time. In fact, I even hit 100 days of no contact a few days ago. I still don’t know if I’ll ever decide to break no contact or not.
@whokilledmrmoonlight yeah it takes time I guess i don't really feel much for mine
Ooo that’s good! I hope it stays that way for you.
@whokilledmrmoonlight wait your a teenager yeah No I only feel comfortable talking to adults