Sobering up

@Mendy2415 

Dear Mendy,

Someone said..." I drink to feel better, but I know I am getting worse. When I do not drink, I feel worse but I know I am getting better'. I so admire you already for recognizing and reaching out about your relationship with alcohol. 

Firstly, there are organizations that may provide some support for you. One is Smart Recovery. This is a free, international organization with in-person and online meetings. Most facilitators have walked the walk themselves. There are some subgroups( ie Military) that may apply to you. I would encourage you to attend different meetings as the first may not feel like a fit. These meetings are non-stigmatizing and again, free. All Recovery is another organization. I have heard good things but do not know it personally. AA is available and if you would like a religious connection, may be a good fit. The point is: please do not wait. Start today. 

Next, alcohol is a powerful drug. Research has shown that 30 minutes after drinking alcohol, it crosses into the brain and starts to interfere with chemicals that are important for our mental health. Without getting too technical, the more a person drinks, the more the brain's chemistry is affected leading to depression and anxiety. Also, depending upon how much a person is drinking may be indication for medical support. There are good medication options that might be indicated to allow the brain to heal and reduce/eliminate the craving.  I cannot tell by your post, but it can be risky to suddenly stop drinking alcohol if you have been using excess on a daily basis. Tapering is a safer option. 

On your own: it is important to find healthy substitutes for the alcohol. Please think about this. Recognize triggers and how to eliminate them. If you feel comfortable, share your goal with someone who can also support you....in addition to the resources I list above. 

I stopped drinking alcohol entirely about 2 yrs ago....not b/c I was drinking a lot, but for other health reasons. In honesty, I still miss it sometimes. Celebrating something for example. I have found I can be a part of a celebration by using a non-alcoholic wine, but this option may not be for everyone.

Lastly, research initially supported the use of wine as part of a healthy lifestyle. More and more research is demonstrating the increased potential harms from alcohol. You are choosing an important step for your health by reaching out about your relationship with alcohol. 

Last thought: when we have a health, we have a thousand wishes; when we do not have our health, we only have one wish. 

My best to you....and I remain here for you.