My mother is addicted
Hi, I am completly new here, so I don't really know how any of this works. English is also not my first language, please bear with me. I don't know if I have to put any trigger warnings, but just in case: TW/alcohol addiction I really have no idea how to put this, it is a really long story but I try to keep it short. I just need to tell this to somebody, who might understand me. Don't get me wrong, I talked to friends, my boyfriend and some of my family, but that's just not the same I guess. I can't really say when her addiction started, but it started so slow, that you first didn't notice it. But at some point it escelated. She drank so much, that when I came home from work I would find her knocked out on the sofa, and that went on for days. In the weekend when my step-dad was home all day, everything was finde, but when he went to work again, it all happened all over. I tried everything I could think of: I talked to her calmly, I cried to her, I screamed at her, and so on. And everytime she would say the same thing: "I will stop, I promise." It didn't stop. For the past few days, she stopped drinking, but I know it will start again. I have lived with this situation for 3+ years now, but I still can't cope with it. How do you handle such thing?
Caring for someone with a addiction can be hard. There is no amount of words you can say to make some change. Someone can only change if they want to. Trying to find ways to distance yourself from your mother could be helpful. I think the best way to handle it would be letting go of trying to help her and focus on what you could do to help yourself.
