Porn and where it leads us
I've been addicted to porn since I was 8 years old. It's never left my life for more then a month. It's always the same, starting gradually, same fantasy, then I get bored and start searching new things, and it's get weirder and wronger everytime. I've noticed it's always media that takes me back, the way they push women in bikinis in movies and shows, in commercials, and how vulgar some movies are. Most shows on HBO and Starz are softcore porn basically, Spartacus Blood and Sand, Game of Thrones, Shameless, to name a few. I really need help getting control of my sexual desires,most of them I don't even want there but take control fast.
@Cowardlyborder88
I can't comment about your specific issue, but in general regarding unwanted habits...
The easiest way to stop a habit might be to...
change mindset completely so the habit seems completely unacceptable and totally repulsive for some overwhelmingly important reason(s) that one decides over-rides all previous reasons one had in mind in the past. Then that might create the needed self-identity change and motivation and willpower and reduce the desire to stop the habit until it no longer has an urge. Of course there are environment changes that could help too (keep it away and make better things more accessible).
Changing mindsets about how one judges things makes a big difference in how one feels about things they see. Basically it's changing one's self-talk and how one feels about things based on personal values and goals.
Mindfulness can help as explained in this book... (as opposed to mindless-ness).
The Here-and-Now Habit - How Mindfulness Can Help You Break Unhealthy Habits Once and for All
By Hugh G. Byrne 2016
https://www.google.com/books/edition/The_Here_and_Now_Habit/aVyfCwAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=0
The book has some great supplementary audio files
that walk a person through the questions they can ask themselves to change their mindset and deal with the habit as it is being eliminated.
Other habit books explain how to change the personal space environment to make a habit more difficult so easier to resist (books like "Tiny Habits" or "Atomic Habits").
Please forgive any typos above.
