I don't know anymore
I feel stuck. And I feel like nothing helps. I worked more, did more, tried techniques, *** for a time procrastination stopped. But I realized I procrastinateur because it's all too much. Because I'm tired. And I realized something way worse: I can't focus on anything, even what I love the most. Time seems to escape without me noticing it. I can't control my emotions. I'm not diagnosed, but I've been said to have " rapidity issues" with comprehension of tests and things. I wonder if that's ADHD.. I wonder if I have ADHD. And ... Honestly ? How I stop having it. I feel like burning out though my brain tells me I don't do enough. The worst is I forget EVERYTHING. Like, I tell myself : Ok I will do it next time, and then... Yikes I just forget. And then I feel more depressed and " What's the point ? " You know. Days are all the same. Go to therapy? I wish, but I don't have the ressources let me say.
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I heard this recently from Cassandra Aarssen (Clutterbug) --or maybe it was Jessica McCabe (How to ADHD)-- and suffered from the same thing you are, and I'm paraphrasing: Do less. Commit to only doing the very bare minimum required of you in order to live, so that you develop good habits and reduce your mental load. I suggest writing down your absolutely non-negotiable tasks and putting them in a highly visible location, like your wall or your phone.
Oops- I made an editing error. It should be *who suffered the same thing you are
Do less
That is sound advice. But getting into mid 20s people want you to get your life in order quickly before you “lose it all”
Honestly, haste has not really helped me in all these years and brought me back full circle just with little more knowledge and information.
Each day has been different for me. No schedule, no sleep and wake hours, no fixed time for diet, consistently skipping breakfast might be the only constant.
I sit to study whenever i feel like it, life has felt like it has been on autopilot and i have just been watching it happen without any agency over it.
So yeah, doing less and developing anchor points in small habits may help.
Object permanence, an ADHD trait where if something isn't directly in front of you it doesn't exist (not all with ADHD have it but it is a trait) sometimes this can be the case with tasks too, my suggestion? Make a list of your most important tasks for the day, switch between task you find to be harder and easier to lessen the loss throughout the day, so maybe you hate doing dishes and Washing tables, but you're okay with doing laundry and vacuuming, write in order you want to do them Dishes Vacuuming Washing Tables Laundry, if you have tasks that need done but at a different time write them down and write down the day & time you want them done by set alarms for those days & times so when it comes you have to do it, use alarms, note pads, and calendars, those things are there for people like us, you are seen and you are heard 💞