Isolation due to rejection sensitivity

@Moodymoonbug2896

You are not a cad person at all.

And it's quite easy for your friends to be so dismissive, claiming wrongly that you are using your mental health to be a bad friend, they don't understand what you go through or walk in your shoes and they could be ABIT more understanding or compassionate.

I really hope you get the support you need, but never think you are lesser than anyone 💜💖

Hey Ashley

I too have ADHD and I have same problems as your's.

You are not bad. When things go wrong we blame ourselves but you don't need to criticize yourself. I am with you because I know exactly what you are going through. Actually we both are on a same mental level I think. My Emotional response after rejection is very painful. Inattention n lack of focus lands me in trouble always.

I was never treated for ADHD because I never knew I had ADHD until recently. Thanks to the internet. I learned a lot about ADHD and self diagnosed myself with ADHD. I am 45 now. I can link all my symptoms with ADHD symptoms.

Now my next step is to work on these symptoms and make my life easier.

You are awesome.

Speaking about your problems need a lot of courage. It gave me strength to open up about myself too. Thanks for your post.

I am with you👍

people have their energies and some of that energy can be allocated to helping other people, but it is important to be mindful of people's energies because it would be exhausting for them to cater to the overshaeing. it can take an emotional toll on them. instead, you can choose multiple people to share your thoughts with. let's say you have amy, rose, and betty as friends. you talk about your school life with amy, romantic life with betty, and your emotional issues with rose. However, you might realize one of these people arent suitable to be that kind of friend for you if they dont wanna share the burden.

When you overshare, that emotional burden can be passed on to the shoulders of other people, even if you dont mean or ipeven if that is not what you actually wanted to happen. people know there is a responsibility for everyone to be responsible for everyone like helping a blind person cross the street even though the blind person did not ask for help.

You are not exactly evil. You just didnt know that our decisions can affect people and some of our burdens can only be entrusted with other people, but not all the time. Sometimes you can talk to them about your problems "Hey I wanna talk about my problems can I share them with you? Do you have the energy for it?" and see if the person is busy or has enough of what is on their plate.

It is not only about caring about the other person when you share the burden with them (verbally or not) but also be strategic of when and how much you can share. if the other person insists a lot that you tell them your problem then you can choose to share but share wisely and make sure they are trustworthy.

You sound like me. Intellectually I want and need to have someone to talk to because it helps.

I don't have that. I just study and learn try to work ony issues.

I feel like I push people away because I'm emotional. It tears away your self worth and you just shelter yourself.

I don't have advice but what you feel is normal in my case.

I'm always willing to listen and learn if you ever need someone.

Your friends couldn’t be further from the truth. ADHD is a neurophysiological problem that, in today’s world can be treated and managed successfully. A person with ADHD often goes on autopilot when confronted with certain situations. Everyone is different. But, you’re not really in control at times which is why we need the help from mental health providers/experts on ADHD. It is possible to minimize these out of control situations but we need help and you deserve this help to manage it successfully. I am sorry you’re going through this but you can emerge on the other side with help.