Lack of persistency in relationships with friends
I have always been a jolly and charismatic person, I am a people person and people love me.
I have never found difficult to make friends (apart from high school, where it was a nightmare to be different), but now I am 47 and I feel like my social life has drifted away.
Adults have a scheduled life and they need to keep in touch with their friends on a regular basis, text them, call them, organise social events, all things that I find extremely difficult to do.
I have just now realised that most of my social life was scheduled by very close friends who would organised everything for me. Now that I have closed contacts with these couple of friends I just seem to find impossible to find parties, dinner nights etc. and I spend more and more time alone in front of my computer and my obsessive mind.
Not to mention my love life, a real disaster... Despite being pretty attractive and charming to the guys (I'm gay), I am basically unable to date someone. Even a month is becoming an unachievable goal for very complex reasons to explain.
Anybody who has the same difficulty in maintaining stable social contacts?
@conscientiousPark5846
Interestibgly, I'm the complete opposite. I find it hard to make new friends, but once I've made one, we tend to be friends for a very long time.
Maybe we can help each other? You give me your secrets for initiating friendships, and I share things that might help them persist.
In my experience, if there is something I want to do but can't do, the reason is invariably fear. So you might want to consider if there is something that you are afraid of that stops you initiating events. I've found that fear is a much more common motivator than most people are aware or want to admit. But as soon as we do acknowledge it, it immediately becomes much easier to confront and overcome.
One more thought, is it the friendships you miss, or having an active social life?