Anxiety triggered
I don’t know if anxiety triggers feeling depressed or the other way around. I’m struggling with both at the moment and I really want to talk to someone but it’s late here and there is no one. There’s the crisis team but I’m not in crisis, just struggling with one of my friends I’ve known for a number of years from work who is changing jobs soon and I don’t want the friendship to end. I know it probably sounds trivial. This friend is someone I often confide in and I struggle doing that with other people. I like and get on with a lot of people, but there are only a few I would consider actual friends. I value connection. Often I’m the listener in my other friendships, which is an honour and something I’m always willing to do…but sometimes I just want to open up about my own things and not have the subject changed. It’s like I want to be heard. I’m so thrilled for this friend and the new opportunities ahead, I really wish them success and happiness and I’m happy that they are finding those things…but I’m also feeling sad. I’m feeling anxious about them not being there, and I’m worried people will think it is strange if I tell them. Just wanted to get that off my chest. I’m not always great at checking messages on here. But if there is anyone out there who wants to I will read and reply. Nights can feel very lonely
@nn7
I want to start by acknowledging your feelings of anxiety and depression. It can be incredibly challenging to navigate through both of these emotions, and I'm here to offer my support and understanding.
Anxiety and depression often go hand in hand, and it can be difficult to determine which one triggers the other. They can create a cycle where one feeds into the other, making it even more overwhelming to manage. It's important to remember that your feelings are valid, and you don't have to face them alone.
I understand that reaching out for support can be challenging, especially when it feels like there's no one available to talk to. It's brave of you to open up here and share your thoughts and concerns. While it may be late and you don't have someone physically present, please know that there are people here who are ready to listen and offer support.
Your struggle with your friend's upcoming job change is not trivial at all. Friendships hold a significant place in our lives, and the fear of losing a connection with someone we confide in can be distressing. It's completely normal to feel anxious about this change and to worry about how it will impact your friendship.
Feeling like you're always the listener in your other friendships can be emotionally draining. It's important to have a space where you can open up and be heard without the subject being changed. Your need to be heard and understood is valid, and it's okay to seek that support.
It's wonderful to hear that you're genuinely happy for your friend and their new opportunities. It shows your capacity for empathy and kindness. However, it's also okay to feel sad about the potential loss of their presence in your life. It's natural to experience mixed emotions during times of change and transition.
Please remember that your feelings are valid, and you don't have to dismiss them or worry about what others might think. Your emotions are unique to you, and it's important to honor and acknowledge them. If you feel comfortable, consider reaching out to your friend and expressing your concerns. They may be able to provide reassurance and support during this time.
I'm glad you reached out here to get things off your chest. It's important to have a space where you can share your thoughts and feelings. While I may not be physically present, I'm here to listen and offer support. Please know that you're not alone, and there are people who care about your well-being.
Nights can indeed feel lonely, but remember that each night also brings the promise of a new day. Take things one step at a time, and be gentle with yourself. If you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to reach out. We're here for you.
Sending you virtual hugs and support. You're not alone.