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Constant anxiety over things I can't control

User Profile: squidooo
squidooo November 23rd, 2023

My grandma tried to commit once, And now I'm afraid she will do it again even though she says she won't. I can't control how my mom and my grandma argue and I can't make her feel better and I'm just so overwhelmed. My mental health has been going on a decline since the beginning of November, but now I feel like I'm stuck and my heart hurts and I feel so guilty about ever single thing and I just don't know how to do this anymore

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User Profile: glisteningLight2506
glisteningLight2506 November 23rd, 2023

@squidooo I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging and overwhelming time. It's clear that you care deeply about your grandma and that the situation is affecting your mental health. It's important to recognize that you can't control everything, and it's okay to seek support for yourself during difficult times.


Here are some suggestions:

1. **Talk to Someone:**
   Reach out to someone you trust, whether it's a friend, family member, teacher, or counselor. Sharing your feelings with someone can provide emotional support and perspective.

2. **Professional Help:**
   If you're comfortable, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can offer guidance and support as you navigate through these challenging emotions.

3. **Encourage Communication:**
   While you can't control the arguments between your mom and grandma, encourage open and honest communication when appropriate. Sometimes, expressing feelings can lead to better understanding.

4. **Self-Care:**
   Take care of your own mental health. Practice self-care activities that bring you comfort and relaxation, whether it's reading, listening to music, or engaging in a hobby.

5. **Set Boundaries:**
   Recognize your limitations. You can offer support, but you can't carry the weight of everyone's struggles. Setting boundaries is crucial for your well-being.

6. **Emergency Contacts:**
   If you're genuinely concerned about your grandma's safety, make sure you have emergency contacts you can reach out to, such as local mental health hotlines or crisis intervention services.

7. **Guilt and Responsibility:**
   Remember that you're not responsible for the actions of others. Feeling guilty is a common reaction, but it's important to recognize that you can't control someone else's choices.

If you're in immediate distress or need someone to talk to, consider reaching out to a crisis hotline in your country. They are trained to provide support in difficult situations.

Remember, it's okay to seek help, and you don't have to go through this alone. Taking care of yourself is important, and seeking support is a sign of strength.