Need practical advice ❤️

@happylook

It is understandable that you would have anxiety about this new situation. I wonder if you could change your prospective on this situation? Instead of looking at it as you are being evaluated, could you look at it as a new life experience? Imagine that you are in a situation whereas each person who goes into the shop is potentially a new good friend. Extend your warmth and friendship to all of them. Look at this at a situation with excitement as it is going to offer you a great life experience. And how about we give you a goal to go along with that?  Make sure, that regardless of how this works out, you leave this situation with at least one new friend. Make the decision that this is going to be a great experience for you, no matter of the outcome. So there you have it; a new life experience, and friend. That's my take; I wish you the best of luck on your journey!

Dear happy;

What you’re feeling is completely normal. But what’s personally helped me in situations like this is expecting the worst-case scenario , it lets me act naturally because I’m already prepared for whatever happens.

What if they don’t accept me? No problem at all, I’m right back at square one, I haven’t lost anything. I’ve learned something from the experience about how to handle similar situations in the future.

What if they do accept me? Perfect , that’s exactly what we wanted. Either way, we took the step and did our part fully, without letting anxiety take over. And the outcome is satisfying either way , whether it’s acceptance, or a lesson in how to handle similar situations going forward.

The important thing is to try to show confidence in yourself, because your self-confidence carries over to them , and that makes them trust you too.

Dear happy;

What you’re feeling is completely normal. But what’s personally helped me in situations like this is expecting the worst-case scenario , it lets me act naturally because I’m already prepared for whatever happens.

What if they don’t accept me? No problem at all, I’m right back at square one, I haven’t lost anything. I’ve learned something from the experience about how to handle similar situations in the future.

What if they do accept me? Perfect , that’s exactly what we wanted. Either way, we took the step and did our part fully, without letting anxiety take over. And the outcome is satisfying either way , whether it’s acceptance, or a lesson in how to handle similar situations going forward.

The important thing is to try to show confidence in yourself, because your self-confidence carries over to them , and that makes them trust you too.

​Hello everyone! Thank you all so much for your advice and kind words.

​My shift today went really well! The anxiety and stress were definitely there in full force, but preparing for the shift beforehand played a huge role in helping me get through it.

​I wanted to share a few things I learned today:

• ​First, fortunately, I made a big discovery: I have a very negative and destructive inner voice. It just waits for me to make a mistake so it can tell me "you are not enough," while completely ignoring all the positive things I do. Recognizing this was huge for me.

• ​Second, I realized that no one is a perfect expert on their trial shift. Mistakes are highly bound to happen, and the most important thing is simply showing that you have a strong desire to learn.

• ​Third, I tried to slow things down. When your brain is anxious, it perceives everything as rushing. When I was dealing with customers, my mind wanted to panic and rush out of anxiety, but I tried to ground myself in the present moment. I just told myself: "This is just a guy who wants a coffee." Trying to calm things down in my head helped me so much.

• ​Lastly, the adrenaline. Honestly, my need for a job and the financial pressure gave me a rush of adrenaline that actually pushed me to be much braver and step out of my comfort zone.

  Thank you again for your support ❤️