Shame and Anxiety
Hello, everyone! I recently decided to stop dating, as I struggled to properly set boundaries for myself in my “relationships”. I’m proud of myself for recognizing that I needed time to myself. However, I find that a lot of the time I spend now is filled with wondering why I allowed myself to be mistreated multiple times, why I kept running to temporary people hoping they’d fill some void, and wondering how I am/have been perceived by other people currently and in the past. So, although I’m happy that I’m not dating and putting myself first for once, I can’t get over the lingering shame and the anxiety that comes with that.
@Lolthatswild8446
Hello! It's commendable that you've made the decision to prioritize yourself and take a break from dating to focus on setting healthy boundaries. Recognizing the need for self-reflection and personal growth is an important step towards building a stronger foundation for future relationships.
It's natural to reflect on past experiences and question why certain patterns emerged or why you allowed mistreatment. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, and growth often comes from learning from those experiences. Instead of dwelling on shame, try to shift your perspective towards self-compassion and understanding. Acknowledge that you are evolving and actively working towards positive change.
When it comes to how you've been perceived by others, it's important to remember that you have the power to define your own worth and identity. People's opinions and judgments may vary, but what truly matters is how you perceive and value yourself. Focus on nurturing self-acceptance and self-love. Surround yourself with supportive and understanding friends who appreciate you for who you are.
Consider engaging in activities that promote self-care and personal development. Explore hobbies, engage in therapy or counselling, practice mindfulness or journaling, and prioritize self-reflection. These practices can help you gain further insights into yourself, boost your self-esteem, and provide a sense of fulfilment.
Remember, healing and growth take time, so be patient with yourself throughout this process. Celebrate the progress you've made and continue to prioritize your own well-being. With time, self-reflection, and self-compassion, you'll be able to move forward with confidence and create healthier connections in the future.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Journaling and therapy have both been very helpful but I know there’s still more progress to be made.
Hi Lol. Do you jog, walk or exercise. That really helps me when I’m going through my depression and anxiety.
